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Old 12-30-2012, 07:42 PM
 
Location: NJ = the $ you have is NOT yours.
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If a man can answer this question (with an actual time) then marriage is for you lol!: If a train left New York at 300 miles per hour, and accelerated speed 15 miles per hour, and traveled a distance of 683 miles, tell me what time would that train reach Chicago?!

Otherwise that 50 year old man has a right to live his life anyway way he wants.
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Old 12-30-2012, 07:57 PM
 
Location: Aventura FL
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I would think lack of confidence or security is the cause, not society.

I've always thought people that are secure in themselves and their decisions don't feel the need to justify their actions/behavior to anyone and don't give a fart what others think.
But you are one of those "married with kids" types. Who are you to pass judgment on this man? Perhaps he is happy with who he is and where he's at, only society (including you) see something wrong with his marital status. Perhaps he is far more secure in himself and confident that many of those who chose to marry and are stuck with the wrong partner, just because society says you should be married by a certain age, or be deemed a "loser" or a "creep" (especially for men).
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Old 12-30-2012, 08:15 PM
 
Location: NJ = the $ you have is NOT yours.
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But you are one of those "married with kids" types. Who are you to pass judgment on this man? Perhaps he is happy with who he is and where he's at, only society (including you) see something wrong with his marital status. Perhaps he is far more secure in himself and confident that many of those who chose to marry and are stuck with the wrong partner, just because society says you should be married by a certain age, or be deemed a "loser" or a "creep" (especially for men).
IMO: There's a small percentage who really love and don't care if the one they're with or even speak to have wealth and so forth, the rest are the ones looking to judge and or to acquire someone they can selfishly use. So very sad as life is so very short for this type of nonsense.
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Old 12-30-2012, 08:33 PM
 
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In my opinion I see no advantages for a person in that situation to get married as I don't really see an advantage in marriage and I think most guys would prefer to be having sex with lots of young attractive gals than be in a life-long committed monogamous relationship.
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Old 12-31-2012, 10:05 AM
 
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Men and women with advanced degrees, doctors and lawyers, spent a while in school. They spent most of their 20s and 30s on a career. By then, most of their dating pool and peer group was made up of divorced single people, not like in college where most everyone was single never married no kids.

They had high expectations for marriage, and they didn't really want to marry someone who was divorced, especially with kids.

From 30s and 40s, most single divorced people that age are concerned about being single parents and raising their kids. It really sucks if you waited to get married and have a family, only to realize no one else did, and you have to deal anyway with some other man or woman's drama, child support, custody battles, etc. etc.

So, he is still 50 and single, and he will marry a woman who has grown children over the age of 18 who no longer live at home. Or he will try to find a woman who has no kids from a previous relationship, which is difficult once the women are over the age of 25.

He may be interested in women only ten or so years younger if they themselves don't have kids.

It really is quite sad that sometimes evolution in our times no longer favors the intellectual and the deep thinkers.
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Old 12-31-2012, 10:12 AM
 
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He may be interested in women only ten or so years younger if they themselves don't have kids.

It really is quite sad that sometimes evolution in our times no longer favors the intellectual and the deep thinkers.
Why can't he have a woman in his own age group who doesn't have kids? No reason there has to be 10 or 20 years age difference, that clearly presents it's own unique issues.
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Old 12-31-2012, 10:30 AM
 
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Why can't he have a woman in his own age group who doesn't have kids? No reason there has to be 10 or 20 years age difference, that clearly presents it's own unique issues.
Because maybe he really still wants kids of his own. It may be challenging for a 40 year old woman, but very challenging for a 50 year old woman.
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Old 12-31-2012, 10:33 AM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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If a man can answer this question (with an actual time) then marriage is for you lol!: If a train left New York at 300 miles per hour, and accelerated speed 15 miles per hour, and traveled a distance of 683 miles, tell me what time would that train reach Chicago?!

Otherwise that 50 year old man has a right to live his life anyway way he wants.
This question can't be answered. For 2 reasons

First, we don't know what time the train left, so we can't know what time it will arrive
Second, acceleration is a rate. Miles per hour per hour for example. The acceleration that you provided is not a rate.
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Old 12-31-2012, 10:43 AM
 
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Because maybe he really still wants kids of his own. It may be challenging for a 40 year old woman, but very challenging for a 50 year old woman.
It sounds wrong all the way around.

The guy in the OP sounds like a bachelor not even looking for marriage, much less kids.

No difference an old guy looking for a breeder than a young woman looking for a sugar daddy. Everybody wants someone for a purpose. So much for honest relationships.
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Old 12-31-2012, 10:46 AM
 
Location: NJ = the $ you have is NOT yours.
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This question can't be answered. For 2 reasons

First, we don't know what time the train left, so we can't know what time it will arrive
Second, acceleration is a rate. Miles per hour per hour for example. The acceleration that you provided is not a rate.
That's just the point! lol!

With all the lists, rules and whatnot that change there is no knowing hence better staying away from marriage.
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