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Not sure about premise of the OP. I hear a lot of women being tired of going on dates so I don't know. I think it depends on the person's outlook: If they have excessive focus on the goal be it sex, marriage, whatever, they tend to view the process more negatively. Girls generally having excesive focus on marriage and guys excessive focus on sex. If they just view as getting to know someone/socializing and having fun, all the better their view of dating will be.
For me, it depends on the girl I'm on a date with. Most of the time, it's at least a decent time even if noting happens beyond that. I think it's b/c I tend to do things I enjoy on dates, like ice skating, tennis, bicycling, hiking along with coffee/snacks/lunch. I also enjoy hearing about their background, hobbies, and interests. The other thing is I like scoping out new coffeehouses and restaurants so if the date sucks, at least I have that.
Dutch: This also happens a lot on dates, but if I like her and sense she really likes me, I pay and tell her "you can pay next time" in a semi-joking manner. If I don't like her enough and/or senses she doesn't like me, it's dutch.
I'm not finding much difference between my job hunt out of college in 2012 and dating right now.
Send nearly a hundred inquiries, only hear back from a few, get one or two interviews...errr....dates, no further movement after that.
The process of dating just SUCKS!
I remember a post of yours from a few weeks ago where you said that you've decided to have fun and relax about things. Since you've done this, things have been better for you.
Forget about the process since I can understand that aspect, but don't you have fun on the actual dates? Isn't it at least a bit interesting to hear about others' lives?
Most of the conversation from them consists of questions about my work, education, what hobbies I'm doing, how much I travel, whether I like food, do I play an instrument, am I an outdoorsy person...blardy bar. It feels like they're adding or debiting points from my "interesting" index on a mental checklist.
Well, what the heck else is there to ask about/talk about on dates if you didn't know the person much beforehand? Gotta start with topics like that before delving into things like religion, politics, economics, human behavior, although I've been known to talk about those things with dates, depending on comfort level.
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Forget about the process since I can understand that aspect, but don't you have fun on the actual dates? Isn't it at least a bit interesting to hear about others' lives?
It is really dependent on the date itself. I had one date where a date and I watched the first half of the Gators/Dawgs game and had a good time. I've had other dates where I could see myself asking the girl, if we move on in the process, when can I start? Of course, I didn't get the offer in those situations.
The guy who is a social worker would therefore need to be creative enough to court the lady doctor in a manner that is both entertaining and friendly to his wallet.
It really is not about the amount of money that a man spends but the care/thoughtplanning behind his efforts. When will some of you guys ever learn this important fact?
You avoided the question. Yes, I understand the concept of a cheap date. However, should this go longer-term, should Mr. Social Worker always be picking up the tab? She easily makes 4x what he does. At any rate, this doesn't happen. Women doctors find other high-paid professionals.
My friend wound up divorcing a woman who made 3x his respectable income in big ticket sales and they had no kids. She didn't want her income stream interrupted. He is the one who got the monetary "bump up" after the divorce.
Well, what the heck else is there to ask about/talk about on dates if you didn't know the person much beforehand? Gotta start with topics like that before delving into things like religion, politics, economics, human behavior, although I've been known to talk about those things with dates, depending on comfort level.
I'm the opposite..haha...I jump straight to the interesting topics first. What do I care about what her opinion about last night's episode of True Blood or whatever it is they watch these days, I mean she sure doesn't give a crap what I think about my own little obscure hobbies and computer games. I'd prefer her opinion on the fallibility of Keynesian economics (just an example.)
Dating has become far too much like going for a job interview. Too much pressure, not really fun. I would rather spend time indoors reading, watching TV or playing Xbox.
You are correct. 'What do you do for a living? Do you have kids? What do you do for fun?'. Just a crapload of questions to see you are 'worthy' of the 'job'.
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Of course, I didn't get the offer in those situations. 
