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This has happened several times where a guy will initiate a date or another date but I don't hear from them again. Scenarios:
1. Guy 1 and I are out and he says let's watch a movie next time. I say sure. Then he comes up with some lame medical excuse and I never hear from him again. Maybe it was real, I don't know, but that's not the point.
2. Guy 2 I met in the summer, says I'm cute, I don't hear from him until recently asking if I want to meet for coffee. I say sure, Friday? Then I never hear from him again.
3. Guy 3 and I were talking online and we were having fun. We start texting and he says morning beautiful. I say hey you, how's it going? Never heard from him again.
Is this some game men play to make us think of them? Even if in a bad light? Because honestly, for guy 1, a second date didn't even pop in my head, I never thought about guy 2 after I last saw him in the summer, and I wasn't even thinking of guy 3 all that much. I mean, they're the ones that initiate it. If I initiated and they don't reply, I'll think they don't like me and move on. But it's annoying to get flaked out on when it wasn't even me who asked them! Were they just lonely at that time, and then upon reflection they think, oh no, not her! What was I thinking? Or they just lost interest in the span of a day to a week? Wow, speaking of never having an ounce of expectation from men ever... No matter the circumstance. How irritating. And these are men in their mid twenties to early thirties.
dont even bother trying to figure it all out, just be happy you saved yourself a future headache and didn't actually hook up with any of the guys like this.
Last edited by rego00123; 01-07-2013 at 01:36 AM..
One time, a few years ago, I was at a concert. I met a woman there. Well, by met I mean that we started making out while our sweaty bodies were mashed together at the front of the stage.
After the show I was walking away.
Her and her friend come running up to me. "Hey, where you going?". We talk for a bit. She says, "after all that you're not going to get my number?" I say something, I don't remember. She writes down her number and tells me to call her. A couple days later I call the number, and it's disconnected.
I know this sound crazy but it's true. After I broke up with my long term girlfriend I hated women. She lied and told her friends I hit her, she told them she was going to the cops ect.
I went out on the dating scene too soon and dropped a few women without a proper explanation, a few months later down the track I explained the situation and apologized to them in an attempt to revive their hope in men, nothing more.
This has happened several times where a guy will initiate a date or another date but I don't hear from them again. Scenarios:
1. Guy 1 and I are out and he says let's watch a movie next time. I say sure. Then he comes up with some lame medical excuse and I never hear from him again. Maybe it was real, I don't know, but that's not the point.
2. Guy 2 I met in the summer, says I'm cute, I don't hear from him until recently asking if I want to meet for coffee. I say sure, Friday? Then I never hear from him again.
3. Guy 3 and I were talking online and we were having fun. We start texting and he says morning beautiful. I say hey you, how's it going? Never heard from him again.
Is this some game men play to make us think of them? Even if in a bad light? Because honestly, for guy 1, a second date didn't even pop in my head, I never thought about guy 2 after I last saw him in the summer, and I wasn't even thinking of guy 3 all that much. I mean, they're the ones that initiate it. If I initiated and they don't reply, I'll think they don't like me and move on. But it's annoying to get flaked out on when it wasn't even me who asked them! Were they just lonely at that time, and then upon reflection they think, oh no, not her! What was I thinking? Or they just lost interest in the span of a day to a week? Wow, speaking of never having an ounce of expectation from men ever... No matter the circumstance. How irritating. And these are men in their mid twenties to early thirties.
Guys hit on women if nothing else to keep in practice and avoid boredom. Could be he was already in a relationship, got involved with someone else in the interim, maybe he was scared off by something you did or said, or something else who knows what.
I struggled to get dates when I was younger and overanalyzed and stressed over what was said until I realized that it rarely mattered, girls fall for you based on flirting and connecting in word interplay...so that's all I consider now. If I don't connect with some kind of discussion/flirtation, noting else is going to make her attracted to me. Men probably aren't that much different but I've never dated one so I wouldn't know.
A lot of people (guys or girls, date material or just friends) just say things they don't mean or get cold feet. This has happened to me a lot, and I try my best not to do it to other people - so at the end of the day when it does happen (especially repeatedly) I just write them off, because I can't deal with flakes. I think it's inconsiderate and I can't rely on people like that. So don't sweat it!
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