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Old 01-08-2013, 04:21 PM
 
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Not talking about swinging. I'm talking about people who are married and their marriages may either lack sexual pizazz or not even that, maybe lacking emotional needs but they love their spouse, kids, lives. And they sincerly don't want to leave those lives. But they like having sex too and they have sex with someone that they know that's also married and maybe having the same experiences at home too. They love the sex with each other, no one knows about it and both are able to function like normal, like nothing wrong is going on and they're friends on top of this with no interest at all in leaving their marriages. They love their spouses and also don't want the other to leave their spouse for them either.

I think this may be a dirty little secret about married life and have encountered this with people I know. But I may just know a bunch of freaks. But does this happen in your life or someone you know?
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Old 01-08-2013, 04:26 PM
 
Location: H-Tine, Texas
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Old 01-08-2013, 04:29 PM
 
Location: Stop Being Nosy
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A cheater is a cheater.

Married or not.
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Old 01-08-2013, 04:34 PM
 
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It's called cheating.

And they don't love their kids, spouse and life that much if they are participating in something like this, no matter how much they try to convince their delusional selves.
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Old 01-08-2013, 04:37 PM
 
Location: Austin
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Popcorn, anyone?
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Old 01-08-2013, 04:44 PM
 
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It's called cheating.

And they don't love their kids, spouse and life that much if they are participating in something like this, no matter how much they try to convince their delusional selves.
Oh yeah its definetly cheating but say they make no apologies for that. Its about the sex and the fact that they can get away with it and still function as if nothing's changed. But I wonder that they are married provides some justification in their minds to keep doing it and getting away with it?
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Old 01-08-2013, 04:47 PM
 
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Some call this cheating, some others call this an open relationship. Depends on the people. If both married individuals agree to it and are comfortable with it then hey, it's their marriage let them do what they please. If it works out great, if it ends up being the reason they divorce in the future then it's not to say there aren't 100 other potential mistakes they could make that could have the same effect.

I'm not 100% I completely understand the question.
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Old 01-08-2013, 04:47 PM
 
Location: Southern New Hampshire
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Oh yeah its definetly cheating but say they make no apologies for that. Its about the sex and the fact that they can get away with it and still function as if nothing's changed. But I wonder that they are married provides some justification in their minds to keep doing it and getting away with it?
Being married provides some justification for cheating and getting away with it? That makes no sense.
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Old 01-08-2013, 04:51 PM
 
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Some call this cheating, some others call this an open relationship. Depends on the people. If both married individuals agree to it and are comfortable with it then hey, it's their marriage let them do what they please. If it works out great, if it ends up being the reason they divorce in the future then it's not to say there aren't 100 other potential mistakes they could make that could have the same effect.

I'm not 100% I completely understand the question.
Sorry for the confusion. That's not it either. Its not an open relationship truly because the spouse doesn't know about it. We're talking about people who are both married but not to each other having sex with each other and not wanting to end their marriages. Their spouses have no idea. Hell they probably are all friends, likely are and their spouse doesn't even suspect that anything is going on. This has to go on right?
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Old 01-08-2013, 04:54 PM
 
Location: Rutherfordton,NC
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Popcorn, anyone?

Yes please. Pass the butter & salt too.
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