I need advice! (date, movies, how to, girls)

[AT9]

There is this girl I like a lot, and she likes me a lot too. However, we are both really shy around each other, how do we get past this? Thanks for any help

[keeperk]

I see there are not any answers yet. I looked at your post earlier and had no idea so left it alone.
I'm thinking it's a tough question. I'll give it a shot...
hum....

You're shy, she's shy...... thinking thinking
Perhaps if you can at least speak to eachother, how about at least making a date to do something together that is either competitive or energetic. Maybe something both of you could be bad at to laugh at eachother. Bowling, laser tag? Really Fun! I love it. Paint ball fighting, skating, bumper cars, hiking, atv's. I think you need something to do together that would break the ice where you are not just relying on eachother for entertainment and conversation. Your focus will be on something else. That will give you something to talk about to eachother, eventually you'll be comfortable enough to talk about anything and might even graduate to the movies.

does that help?
How old are you?

[Pikantari]

I agree with above poster^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^do something that will break the ice and really just MAKE you come out of the shyness you have around eachother...

[Jadel812]

I understand how you feel as I used to be very shy at one time.. I however, was able to outgrow my shyness.. I'm still a bit shy around men that I am attracted to, but for the most case I've gotten over my shyness.

It took some finding myself to get up the nerves to talk to a guy, but that was because I grew up with a very very low self esteem.
I do agree with everyone else though, find an ice breaker and strike up a conversation. Good luck and let us know how it works out for you both.

[Rhett_Butler]

Easy...... Get drunk...

[SaveMtns]

Originally Posted by VAFury

Easy...... Get drunk...

Alcohol IS the "great equalizer"!!

BUT I do not recommend it in this case.

OP - Are you wondering how to find the courage to speak to her at all? To ask her out? More info., please

[MainStreet]

Buy some Altoids and offer her one...great ice breaker.

[AT9]

Thanks for the help, it has been useful!......well, except for the get drunk one (her dad is an Elder in my church lol)

To answer one of the questions above, I am 17. I plan on asking her out the next time I see her (in a few days), and I'm not really all that shy around girls, just the ones that I like . But anyway, just to give you some background info, we've liked each other for a couple years now, but we seldom talk (still to shy). So that's why I plan on asking her out soon. I guess I'm really just asking how to stop being completely uncomfortable around her.

I don't think she's a big bowling fan...we don't have lazer tag..... mini-golf?

[SaveMtns]

Originally Posted by AT9

Thanks for the help, it has been useful!......well, except for the get drunk one (her dad is an Elder in my church lol)

To answer one of the questions above, I am 17. I plan on asking her out the next time I see her (in a few days), and I'm not really all that shy around girls, just the ones that I like . But anyway, just to give you some background info, we've liked each other for a couple years now, but we seldom talk (still to shy). So that's why I plan on asking her out soon. I guess I'm really just asking how to stop being completely uncomfortable around her.

I don't think she's a big bowling fan...we don't have lazer tag..... mini-golf?

Mini-golf is perfect!! To lose the shyness: just tell yourself right now she's just a friend like your other friends, but it could develop into something more. And use humor--laughter, especially if you can laugh at yourself, always puts people at ease!

[I love the Bears]

You just need to do things a few times so that you have "stuff" to laugh and joke around about and get to know each other. Do you have any corn mazes or hay rides in your area? They are a lot of fun and will help you get to know each other!