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Takes all kinds. Sometimes, things just don't work.
It's really nobody's business but the people involved.
The daughter was detestable - the most problematic employee. The half-sister, didn't know the lineage but had a different last name, was another piece of work. The mother was not a good person. Not even knowing this information about her, one could tell she was selfish and unscrupulous. The problematic behavior has a source and oftentimes it's family dynamics. Some people get through relatively unaffected and others are heavily affected.
It's not that uncommon anymore. My mother and my father were married 3 - 4 times each. I have siblings remarrying. Marriage is not taken seriously anymore. And yet I still have faith that I can meet a respectable woman and enter into this bond with her and have it last for life. I'm a hopeless romantic.
It's not that uncommon anymore. My mother and my father were married 3 - 4 times each. I have siblings remarrying. Marriage is not taken seriously anymore. And yet I still have faith that I can meet a respectable woman and enter into this bond with her and have it last for life. I'm a hopeless romantic.
But isn't that financially and logistically messy? How do people even juggle that much discord? I think it takes one who has an "Eh" attitude toward the whole thing.
The daughter was detestable - the most problematic employee. The half-sister, didn't know the lineage but had a different last name, was another piece of work. The mother was not a good person. Not even knowing this information about her, one could tell she was selfish and unscrupulous. The problematic behavior has a source and oftentimes it's family dynamics. Some people get through relatively unaffected and others are heavily affected.
Exactly. It varies.
One of my undergrad psych professors once told me that kids need stable parents. Whether it's one parent or a set.
I agree.
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It's not that uncommon anymore. My mother and my father were married 3 - 4 times each. I have siblings remarrying. Marriage is not taken seriously anymore. And yet I still have faith that I can meet a respectable woman and enter into this bond with her and have it last for life. I'm a hopeless romantic.
I think most people want that. I just think things happen that they didn't anticipate, then they don't bother to learn from their mistakes.
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Some people actually learn positive things with each marriage; at the very least, what they're not willing to tolerate. They understand the give and take of marriage. Habits, hang-ups. The routines and responsibilities. Dealing with in-laws. By the time they get to the 3rd or 4th marriage, they have it down.
That's why they ironically become "marriage material."
Some people actually learn positive things with each marriage; at the very least, what they're not willing to tolerate. They understand the give and take of marriage. Habits, hang-ups. The routines and responsibilities. Dealing with in-laws. By the time they get to the 3rd or 4th marriage, they have it down.
That's why they ironically become "marriage material."
I disagree. What I've seen is better first marriages that come later, but not too late. I'm talking late 30s or early 40s. My family has a friend, who I no longer like after learning what she's really like, who met her husband and they both married at exactly age 50. I don't think their situation is that great, from reading between the lines, but the Catholic front they need to put up precludes other courses of action.
(quoting my post)A different take here.
Some people actually learn positive things with each marriage; at the very least, what they're not willing to tolerate. They understand the give and take of marriage. Habits, hang-ups. The routines and responsibilities. Dealing with in-laws. By the time they get to the 3rd or 4th marriage, they have it down.
That's why they ironically become "marriage material."
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I disagree. What I've seen is better first marriages that come later, but not too late.
I have seen this, too, with my best friend. But I have seen many more successful 3rd and even 4th marriages, especially with those who have gotten into their 40's and 50's. So maybe we're kind of in agreement.
Some people actually learn positive things with each marriage; at the very least, what they're not willing to tolerate. They understand the give and take of marriage. Habits, hang-ups. The routines and responsibilities. Dealing with in-laws. By the time they get to the 3rd or 4th marriage, they have it down.
That's why they ironically become "marriage material."
Wouldn't they be able to learn most of this from LTR's and living together?
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