Being in a relationship with someone who travels alot, opinion please!

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by YellowT

May I ask why do you want to know?

I had a similar question. How well do you know him? Can you trust him not to see women while he's away? Have you two known each other long enough for mutual trust to build? Or is he just trying to control you, partly out of guilt because he knows what he's going to be up to while he's away? People usually agree to exclusivity after they've formed a real bond and care about each other, not because they want to put a chastity belt on each other.

Just wondering...

[TheImportersWife]

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

I had a similar question. How well do you know him? Can you trust him not to see women while he's away? Have you two known each other long enough for mutual trust to build? Or is he just trying to control you, partly out of guilt because he knows what he's going to be up to while he's away? People usually agree to exclusivity after they've formed a real bond and care about each other, not because they want to put a chastity belt on each other.

Just wondering...

What she said.


When I first started dating my husband, he was overseas for more than half the year and the other half he was traveling domestically. I thought it was the ideal setup!!!

[YellowT]

Originally Posted by rhacer

It's good to see you have no difficulties with self-esteem and hold yourself in such high-regard. Very impressive!

This guy who asked you to be "his girl" (I haven't heard that kind of thing since high school). How many times did you go out?

Well our situation is different. He wanted me to wait for him till he comes back in March. Base on experience, agreeing to be exclusive with someone with no bf/gf label at all is not a good idea, so I told him that I wouldn't wait. If he comes back and I'm with someone then it's his lost. He wanted me to not date anyone else. I told him that that only applies when your in an exclusive relationship. That's when he asked me to be his girl. I told him I would think about it. Then he became really persistent to make me his gf.

But to answer your question. It took 3 dates. I know him for over a month. I didn't hear from him for over a week. Within that period, I didn't text or call him asking him out or asking him what happened. It bothered me but I went on with my life. Then one day, he sent me a text. He called me.He said he's just been busy.

[rhacer]

So three dates, no sex and he wanted you to be his exclusive girlfriend? Do you have any idea how hot you must be? That must be an incredible boost to your ego to be wanted like that.

From of the sound of things he's going to be missing out though. That's really too bad for him.

[rego00123]

if you are too busy to be present in a relationship properly you are too busy to be in a relationship period.
your wants do not outweigh your reality