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I think some women do use the word too liberally, or may lack the vocab to describe a man who is lewd, forward, psychotic.etc. With many women already having their biatch shields up, however, sometimes it can be hard for a man to tread the line between being confident and assertive and being too forward. Women get all up in arms if you invade their personal space, so a lot of it depends on whether she's attracted to you to in the first place.
You are right with your bold statement. It's why the jerk always gets the girl vibe is present. A jerk offers a challenge, which in turn, effects the emotions of a woman. Most women are emotional, as more men are calculated. With a jerk, you have no guidance of how he's going to act. He may be sweet, he may be sour, he may be lovey, he may be hateful. All those quick changes of personalities for the guy can send a woman who rides her emotions to swoon. Yet, a more reserved laid back guy, will likely bore a more emotional woman. There's nothing there that seems normal to her (IE emotional instability), so she goes looking for what she thinks is normal.
I've talked to a few women in my years that stated they really wish they had a mulligan on some guy that passed up. He wasn't always full of excitement, but looking back, they felt the guy would have treated them with respect and adored them. Now, they have kid(s) with a jerk who doesn't emotionally support them and/or isn't involved in the kid(s) life. I always pay attention to how a single mom becomes a single mom. If she becomes a single mom by divorce, and she was pregnant after she was married, that's one thing. If she was knocked up by a boyfriend, then I tend to question her abilities to take care of herself. I start thinking, do you require a condom during sex, do you take birth control pills, if not are you on a shot or a ring? Do condoms break? You bet, but I've only had 2 truly break and I have used hundreds of them. Even in monogamous relationships, I still practice safe sex. There's too many unplanned kids in the world today as is!
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I personally don't like the term. It often gets misapplied to guys that are just socially awkward or physically unattractive. In Britain, such men may get called "weirdos", but that word isn't as bad. Creep or creeper implies some sort of threat, like a sexual predator or even a pedophile. It is a cruel label in that regard and frankly, it reeks of immaturity.
It's funny, because I see many women (and men) on here and IRL advising unattractive guys to not be scares to approach women, but if they do have enough confidence to approach, they risk getting hit with a potentially confidence-shattering label.
Rejection is a part of life, but I don't understand why people cannot at least be polite about it, unless of course the approacher is being an arsehole.
Some people stay weird their entire lives. They might develop strongly in some other area, but they don't seem to care about the weirdness. They accept it.
Others are weird when they are young. Late bloomers basically. It's something they recognize about themselves at some point and try to overcome.
I hung out with a lot of musicians over the years and pretty much EVER drummer I know does this on a regular basis... I swear, they all have ADD and HAVE to be drumming on something at all times if they aren't otherwise occupied. One of them kept a pair of drum sticks on his dashboard and when he was waiting at stop lights he would grab them and drum on his steering wheel.
Not all drummers would do this. I would be a little off put by it. Unless the person was young or something.
a lot of double standards and hypocrisy in this thread I'm sure.
basically if a guy is 'hot' he cannot be a creep or weird.
He'd be called 'mysterious or alternative'
but if he's ugly and skinny - well then he'd definitely be 'creepo weirdo freak'
There will always be a few people who can rely on their looks and seemingly get away with anything. A super attractive guy can get away with being a little creepy, just like a super attractive woman can get away with being a little annoying or demanding.
At the other end of the spectrum, there will always be a few people who are so physically unattractive that no matter what they do they won't appeal to most.
For the overwhelming majority of us who are in between those two extremes in the looks department, it comes down to other factors, such as not being a creep.
Creepy is hovering around you and saying things like "I want to **** her!" just 4 feet away from you like you're not even there.
Well, 6 months later. Or saying things like "she lied. she said she lived alone". Makes you wonder whatever were they doing to get the information and what their intentions are.
lol i like what someone told me onetime was that creepy is defined unattractive, but it was not creepy if they where hot, attractive.
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