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Well I am here living with my GF much sooner then we had both planned. Things are going very good still trying to feel each other out about little things though. It's been 4 days now & I haven't unpacked I still have my things in my bag. I know it sounds bad but I can't bring myself to do it, not just yet anyhow I want to please don't misunderstand me. We're getting along great it's just I guess I feel strange by unpacking so soon she wants me to unpack I know that but I guess I am still a bit stand offish about it. I feel at home as soon as I got here so that's not the problem I guess it stems from moving in with someone & getting told that it's not working out in less then 6 months. I would like to move past this as quickly I don't want her to feel that I am going to bolt.
So you have moved in with a significant other before and then were told that it wasn't going to work out after 6 months?
Hopefully you learned from whatever you did wrong and/or are not dating a psycho girlfriend like you had before.
So just realize that what's done is done and the only way to move on is to step outside your comfort zone.
After 6 months she told me that she was seeing someone else. It left it's mark on me I did the same thing with my ex-wife it took me close to a year to unpack with her. I feel good about everything else getting nookie on a regular bases ROCKS
You still have issues from past relationships. Hopefully you learned from the past and can see through experienced eyes but with open mind.
Now that you agreed to move in, and things are going great, take that momentum and go forward. You said you are afraid that things won't work out 6 months from now. Did you ever stop to think that she may think the same thing?
It's all about trust. You can get past their habits that drive you nuts if you trust one another and communicate.
So she hasn't asked you why you haven't unpacked yet? She may be feeling some anxiety about that but afraid to ask you about it.
Now that you are there, unpack your stuff. Talk to your gf and discuss what both of your expectations are while living under the same roof. Putting down some ground rules will help to avoid some headaches later. Make sure she knows how important she is to you. Respect is also key. If you respect each other and hear them out it can make things a lot easier. Have fun cohabitating! And don't forget to leave the toilet seat down! That is up on the list of pet peeves women have about their men they live with.
After 6 months she told me that she was seeing someone else. It left it's mark on me I did the same thing with my ex-wife it took me close to a year to unpack with her. I feel good about everything else getting nookie on a regular bases ROCKS
Well learn from your mistakes. Not all women are cheating hoes. Hopefully you moved in with one who's genuine.
First of all, if you are not unpacking, then you did move in too soon. Love can make people do things that they wouldn't do otherwise. Now that you agreed to move in, and things are going great, take that momentum and go forward. You said you are afraid that things won't work out 6 months from now. Did you ever stop to think that she may think the same thing?
It's all about trust. You can get past their habits that drive you nuts if you trust one another and communicate.
So she hasn't asked you why you haven't unpacked yet? She may be feeling some anxiety about that but afraid to ask you about it.
Now that you are there, unpack your stuff. Talk to your gf and discuss what both of your expectations are while living under the same roof. Putting down some ground rules will help to avoid some headaches later. Make sure she knows how important she is to you. Respect is also key. If you respect each other and hear them out it can make things a lot easier. Have fun cohabitating! And don't forget to leave the toilet seat down! That is up on the list of pet peeves women have about their men they live with.
No worries about leaving the seat down that's habit! She mentioned about buying me some hangers from my clothes today. She even offered to help with it. She knows I'm a bit worried that she will do the same. She took me by the hand a & said that she wasn't this girl who did that to me in the past & that I have nothing to worry about. So as I have posted this I did start to place my personal things in the bathroom..So maybe that will help ease her mind some.
You already took the big step and moved in with your girlfriend, so make the best out of the situation.Yes, by not unpacking it gives the impression that you are having second thoughts and thinking of leaving. Maybe you should have waited a little longer before deciding to live together. especially because you almost broke up not too long ago. Procrastinating isn't going to change anything. Talk to her, tell her how you feel and get yourself situated.
Dude, come one. Put your bags back in your car and head back to your own apartment. You're not ready for this and it's probably too early as it is. Get to know this girl a bit more before you start living like a married couple.
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