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I still feel like that the house we're living in is hers not ours. She reminds me in the sweetest voice that this place belongs to the both of us. She always follows by "it will always be ours" Make's me feel good about moving forward with her.
Why doesn't the house feel like an "our house"? Did she have/buy it before you came along? Was it part of a divorce settlement that still has traces of another man (things that are more to his liking)? Is it decorated with only her stuff and likes?
If you don't feel as though it's "our house", either renovate to bring some of your personality into it or find a house that you both love and make it an "our house".
I've always believe the little things hold the most weight. Being military I am bred to be detail oriented thus the little things details come as second nature. Amazing how much gratitude you will endure via these little things.
I never got used to the fact that someone as amazing as my wife wanted, actually wanted to be with someone like me.
I've had to make a concious decision to let her do more for me. I've always been very independent and I didn't realise until a few years ago (and especially recently) just how much this upset her...... hard to explain really. I always have and do leave the little messages and origami sculptures about the place and cooked meals and stuff like that but I missed what she wanted to do for me. It was all her saying she'd do something for me and me going "it's ok love, i'll do it"..... i've had to learn to stop doing that.
Why doesn't the house feel like an "our house"? Did she have/buy it before you came along? Was it part of a divorce settlement that still has traces of another man (things that are more to his liking)? Is it decorated with only her stuff and likes?
If you don't feel as though it's "our house", either renovate to bring some of your personality into it or find a house that you both love and make it an "our house".
Not used to saying ours more then anything. The house WE are staying in belongs to her mom & has been in the family for many generations. No one has loved there but her & now me. We both have VERY similar tastes so renovating it won't be much of a problem. Her mom wants us to buy the house & we're thinking about it we really want some land though about 5 or 6 acres.
I never got used to the fact that someone as amazing as my wife wanted, actually wanted to be with someone like me.
Same here I keep messing with her & telling her that she must be some kind of mental illness runs in her family & I'm proof of that! I feel like she is WAY out of my leauge when I look at her.
As if on cue, my wife ordered me a book. It probably arrived yesterday but sat in our mail box until I remembered to go outside and get the mail. It's a barbecue recipe book, focussing on sauces, rubs, and marinades. She probably only spent $12 on it, which isn't a lot. It may seem like a little thing, getting a barbecue book. But this is exactly what I'm talking about, though. She sees something that she thinks I'll like and she gets it for me. I have to admit, while I have done stuff like this as well, she is MUCH better at it than I am!
A few months ago I began keeping V-8 Juice in my refrigerator, my guy's preferred morning drink. Not long afterwards I began stocking Pizza Bits, his favorite snack food. Then I procured Dove Men + Care soap, and AXE Pure Metal shampoo, to be placed in my shower. Lastly came a Keurig Coffee Maker purchased primarily for my coffee-drinking frequent guest. I would have bought all these things at once, but I wanted to drag-out as long as possible the appreciation rendered from them.
Years ago i got into the habit of leaving little love notes around for my beloved wife, letting her know how much she meant to me. I put notes in places like on her pillow, by her coffee cup, on her chair, by her makeup, by her silverware, in her lunch bag, in her car......
That is very nice of you.
I need to personally start doing a bit more of that type of stuff myself.
A few months ago I began keeping V-8 Juice in my refrigerator, my guy's preferred morning drink. Not long afterwards I began stocking Pizza Bits, his favorite snack food. Then I procured Dove Men + Care soap, and AXE Pure Metal shampoo, to be placed in my shower. Lastly came a Keurig Coffee Maker purchased primarily for my coffee-drinking frequent guest. I would have bought all these things at once, but I wanted to drag-out as long as possible the appreciation rendered from them.
I would marry you.
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I feel like she is WAY out of my leauge when I look at her.
