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So when i was dating my boyfriend he gave me his high school class ring with his name on it. Which cost a lot. We broke up and i gave it back to him and he ask me why? I don't get why he question it when he has a girlfriend hes been with since week after we broke up. and couple months ago he told me he didnt want to be friends with me anymore and we havent talk since. So does he think im just always gonna be there for him whenever he needs me and just use me? shouldn't he be happy he got his ring back since it was his in the first place.
I wouldnt read too much into that comment if I were you. His actions (i.e. leaving you and starting another relationship) is the strongest statement he has made as to where you stand in the grand scheme of things. I'd say, its nice of you to return the ring but ummmmm do your best to close the door on that episode, and focus on enjoying yourself..
Thank you, it was also verbally abusive relationship i was in. And i have close the door. I didnt even say anything when he sent the message. Even when he broke up with me he said told he like someone else. after 2 years of dating and being best friends for about 5.
I think you did a very nice thing by returning the ring to him. Maybe he questioned it because he did not expect it?
It speaks a lot of you that you can be a mature person in the face of a breakup and still care for him enough to return something like that, instead of seek to do something malicious! Sounds like you will be a nice catch for a much better guy than he is!!
So when i was dating my boyfriend he gave me his high school class ring with his name on it. Which cost a lot. We broke up and i gave it back to him and he ask me why? I don't get why he question it when he has a girlfriend hes been with since week after we broke up. and couple months ago he told me he didnt want to be friends with me anymore and we havent talk since. So does he think im just always gonna be there for him whenever he needs me and just use me? shouldn't he be happy he got his ring back since it was his in the first place.
maybe he wanted you to keep it as a way to keep his options open. most guys think a ring signifies something deep and a girl feels won over with it.
Your returning his ring back probably caught him by surprise. I hope he's not the type of guy who thinks that girls can be easily bought and won over by expensive presents as I know some of the misconceptions of women being the mysterious species is we tend to go for guys for money, jewelry, cars and other fancies.
Normally I'd say a gift is something that is given unconditionally - but the tradition of giving a girlfriend your own personalized class ring is more like a promise ring where it's given as a symbol of the relationship and therefore on the condition of being in a relationship together. It's not something he got for you, it's something he got for himself and then wanted you to have something of his. It's not really yours and therefore it's not really yours to keep. What would you do with someone else's class ring anyway? So yes, I'd say you did the right thing by giving it back.
I'm not sure what side to take on this. A lot of cases you could/should return but on the other hand you could keep some stuff. An example would be in order to find out what's right or wrong. But everyone's different and has their own opinion. If it's a stuffed animal that they bought for you; I don't see the harm in keeping it. If it's jewelry, I would want her to keep it. I would not want her to return it. I some aspects in my mind it says, I'm sorry things didn't work out but the good times will always be remembered.
If it was an item they wanted back and I had no use for it, then fine, give it back. If I want the gift and have use for it -- then no. You don't give someone a gift and expect it back when things don't work out. Don't give gifts in the first place, if that's your mentality about it. The exception: engagement ring. No marriage, ring should go back.
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Sounds like you will be a nice catch for a much better guy than he is!!
