betrayed! need words of wisdom (man, family, children, advice)

[Torn2pieces]

You need to move on and do what is important for you and your children. He' made his choice. Don't allow him to flip-flop.

Good Luck!

[MainStreet]

Did you see Dr. Phil yesterday? Supposedly, in some states they have an alienation of affection law. You might be able to sue them both. Look into that!

[cricket_factor]

I would make an appointment with a lawyer and find out about legal separation at least. What if he runs up credit card bills on this woman? You sure don't want to be responsible for paying them. You need to file a date of separation with the court nearest you so your financial responsibilities come to a cut off with your husband.

[GreenMachine]

And to think, he's probably with this woman talking ill about you .... believe me, that's usually how it works.

[Agrotera]

I am sorry this is happening to you but the best revenge is moving on with your children. You will need to make sure you document everything even that woman's vulgar emails. Everyone is right about getting an attorney and making sure you get child support and spousal.
In the end you will have the last laugh because you will see in time you will find happiness away from such a man and maybe in time a new man will come in who will appreciate you and everything you offer.
It is a difficult time now but just realize you have opened the door for something better in your life.
Good luck and well wishes.

[GreenMachine]

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[Macrina]

Originally Posted by GreenMachine

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Good point, Greenie...thanks for drawing attention to this...

[Chinolala]

I agree that you need a good lawyer and should get counseling for you and the kids. I don't necessarily agree that he should not be involved in the kids' lives if he chooses to later. Parental abandoment is really hard on kids and often manifests itself even into adulthood. I know this because my husband's father had nothing to do with his kids after my in-laws were divorced in the 80's and his kids (the youngest now 35) still have problems coping with it. IF your husband should change his mind and want to be involved in the kids' lives, let him. But proceed with your divorce and move on. I pity you - divorce isn't easy but you'll make it.

[FeelGood]

Originally Posted by Jadel812

Keep in mind that he has to pay child support and since they both want to be so rude about it I would hit him up for spousal support as well..The court can and will force him to go and find a job. It will tear her up that he has to give you child and spousal support.

In the long run he will regret abandoning his children like that for another man's child and one day your children won't forget it either.

Aren't we all sue happy?
Forget the flip flop fogger
When the divorce happens...(it will) you won't want the monthly reminder of the terrible crap that happened in the past. Nobody wants the monthly reminder.
Take the high road.

Originally Posted by MainStreet

Did you see Dr. Phil yesterday? Supposedly, in some states they have an alienation of affection law. You might be able to sue them both. Look into that!

lol Doc Phil is a disgrace to the white coat.

Next, you'll get the DNA results back on your Mutt dog and sue the kennel because the percentage of breed isn't sheitsue dog, but 51% bull dog with 49% sheitsue. Also know as a bullsheit!

[may07]

thank you all for listening and your advice. i do not know you guys ,but i feel as if i have someone in my corner who wishes me the best. you all have made me feel so much better. thank you. i wish you all sucess in everything. you were there when i had no one.