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I wouldnt worry you didnt say anything wrong. the girls friend wasnt being responsible and you pointed that out anyone with half a brain could see that something bad was going to happen to her if she carried on like this......thanks to you and your advice she didnt get raped or worse so i think the girl you were dating was looking for an excuse and you provided one.
keep looking you'll find a nice girl who wont be looking for a stupid excuse to end things.
Your GF is a moron and you need to dump her. The fact that she hasn't spoken to her friend ALREADY says A LOT. You really went out of the way to take care of her friend more than she did. You did nothing wrong and you sound like a caring person which the RIGHT girl will truly appreciate. GL
OP you may well have stopped a girl from becoming a victim of rape. Good on you for your thinking and foreseeing a bad situation and then acting. It seems like this girl is probably just looking for a reason to move on. Someone suggested that she seems argumentative and that is a possibility. If this is the case, you are better off without her. Anyone who has been in a relationship with an argumentative man or woman knows that it is just exhausting and very frustrating. Every statement has to be mentally word-smithed before being said, because you NEVER KNOW how it is going to be received.
You did a good thing. Your friend doesn't understand how anyone can "think like that" but it was "thinking like that" that possibly saved her friend from being raped or at the least sexually assaulted. Keep doing good things and it will come back around to you some day.
Ill give you a little backround first and if I could get some advice it would be nice.
First Ive posted on here a couple of times about how Im new to the area and dont know anyone so the dating is kinda tough. So I thought Id try the online thing and see how it goes. So I met this girl went out a couple times kinda liked her thought things were going well. So a couple nights ago we were at my house watching a movie and she gets a text from her friend.
I tell you a little about her friend. Very pretty girl. She does have a habit of dressing we'll say pretty revealing when she goes out. She's the type of girl that flirts with guys to get free drinks. Ive hung out with her and the girl Im kinda dating only twice but both times Ive seen her do this and joke about it. I wouldnt say the girl is easy but she kinda is for the right guy if you know what I mean. Both times we have hung out she's gone home with a guy and had a one night stand which is none of my business but the girl Im dating told me.
So back to the other night. So her friend texts her and says she met this guys at a bar and was going back to their hotel with them to smoke weed. So the girl Im dating shows me the text and was like she is such a hoochie and I said you should tell her to be careful because that sounds like trouble. So a little while goes
by and she gets another text from her friend saying that she's kinda creeped out and just wanted to smoke but the guys keep asking to hook up and touching her like smacking her ass.
So I tell the girl Im with to ask where the hotel is. Which she does and I call them and ask to send a
security guard up there to get her friend. Which turned out to be good cuz she asked to leave the room and the guys wouldnt let her. So we drive down there to pick her up. Which we do and take the girl home and I kinda kept quiet and let them talk.
So earlier tonight we were talking about it and I kinda said she has to talk to her friend because she is kinda asking for it. And she was like what is that suppose to mean and I said she could have been raped. And she was like thats her fault. And I said kinda. So then she blows up and says its disgusting that I think like that and she cant be with someone like that. And says she doesnt want to date any more.
So I thought that was a pretty stupid reason and that it would have to be something else. I mean I could
have worded what I said better but to not wanna see me any more just doesnt make sense. And I dont think what I said was that bad. I dont think any one should be raped but you have to look at the situation the girl put herself in.
Basically what Im asking is what I said that bad or do you think maybe she just wasnt in to me and kinda took that as a way out. We didnt have sex just kissed and hung out about 5 times and talked almost everyday for a month. Let me know.......
Man you didn't, all you was doing was giving your opinion and she disagreed. You have TOO many men out here scared to disagree with their lady in fear of jeopardizing the relationship. She's being sensitive, you were very caring by calling for security and going to picked her up, very thoughtful of you man, well if she broke up with you cause you voiced your opinion then she is in for a lot of break ups.
I don't think you said anything wrong. In an ideal world a woman should be able to go out and do whatever she pleases without worrying about being raped or hurt, but that isn't the world we live in. Going to a stranger's hotel room to do drugs is a really really stupid thing to do. You are the company you keep, so honestly I'd be glad this girl dropped you.
The friend seems prone to putting herself at risk. This points to underlying psychological issues. I wonder what the girl you were dating sees in her. Why are they friends? It makes me wonder if the girl you were seeing might have some flaws you hadn't discovered yet. This may seem harsh, but people do sometimes judge others by the company they keep. Sometimes there's something to that, sometimes not.
I want to really commend you for calling security to rescue that girl! Good call! It seems odd that your date completely overlooked this heroic act, and fixated instead on your cautionary note about her friend. That, itself, seems kind of like a red flag, when you think about it. You deserve someone who appreciates you.
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