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But that's because they dump the affectionate guys for being too clingy. Women could get plenty of attention from men if they wanted it, but actions speak louder than words. They don't really want attention... they want a challenge. As soon as a man gets emotionally attached to a woman, and he is no longer a "challenge" for her, he gets dumped.
Guys, take it from me, i am a clingy guy, and women are RUTHLESS toward me. Not just the super hot ones. Average-looking women are mean to me as well. So if you are the least bit clingy, in my opinion you are better off paying for female attention from professionals than constantly getting rejected and hurt. The vitriol with which women reject me is just something i hope none of you ever have to endure.
I have no problem with overly affectionate men--I love being petted to death. What I do have a problem with is men who who get anxious with me having a social life or who start to freak out when they can't get me on the phone or if I don't text back right away, even though I've explained that I really can't text at work as I am usually too busy. No one wants to be smothered and yes it makes them hostile and likely to reject you with vitriol, as you put it. Truth is, we all look for signals of mental health from our potential partners and clinginess feels like one step away from stalking which gives her a very bad feeling in the pit of her stomach.
If you are too depressed to find joy in life or have a healthy relationship, then you should put dating on hold until you get a better handle on these things so you don't mess up someone else's happiness. I do not mean this in a cruel way--just that it's normal for a woman to not want to be with a clingy man, and I'm assuming that men don't like clingy women either though I wouldn't know as I'm not a klingon.
I hate clingy men without a life besides me. I've dated a couple and it's not fun. Yes, I like hearing from them and seeing them often, but I don't want to be getting a call every hour of the day and their life revolves around me.
This deserves it's own thread. Shyness is not the worst quality a man can possess. Clingy-ness is.
If you are at ALL clingy or affectionate, most women will dump you on your ass the minute you become emotionally attached. Yes, i know women get married and then complain that their spouses ignore them or don't give them enough attention. But that's because they dump the affectionate guys for being too clingy. Women could get plenty of attention from men if they wanted it, but actions speak louder than words. They don't really want attention... they want a challenge. As soon as a man gets emotionally attached to a woman, and he is no longer a "challenge" for her, he gets dumped.
Guys, take it from me, i am a clingy guy, and women are RUTHLESS toward me. Not just the super hot ones. Average-looking women are mean to me as well. So if you are the least bit clingy, in my opinion you are better off paying for female attention from professionals than constantly getting rejected and hurt. The vitriol with which women reject me is just something i hope none of you ever have to endure.
Its important to understand that interactions between the opposite sexes are TOTALLY different when you are first getting to know someone versus when you are deep in a relationship.
When you are first getting to know someone too much attention understandably would scare someone off. But its different when two people grow. Feelings and attachment is supposed to develop over time. Thats just the way things are supposed to happen.
This deserves it's own thread. Shyness is not the worst quality a man can possess. Clingy-ness is.
If you are at ALL clingy or affectionate, most women will dump you on your ass the minute you become emotionally attached. Yes, i know women get married and then complain that their spouses ignore them or don't give them enough attention. But that's because they dump the affectionate guys for being too clingy. Women could get plenty of attention from men if they wanted it, but actions speak louder than words. They don't really want attention... they want a challenge. As soon as a man gets emotionally attached to a woman, and he is no longer a "challenge" for her, he gets dumped.
Guys, take it from me, i am a clingy guy, and women are RUTHLESS toward me. Not just the super hot ones. Average-looking women are mean to me as well. So if you are the least bit clingy, in my opinion you are better off paying for female attention from professionals than constantly getting rejected and hurt. The vitriol with which women reject me is just something i hope none of you ever have to endure.
The worst thing you can do is----keep harping about THE SAME DADGUM THING 24-FREAKING-7!
I mean, dude, jesus horatio hornblower christ...every time I see you either START a thread or POST IN a thread, you're suffering from a case of droopy-drawers because some mean ol' woman basically told you to get a spine, grow a pair, and quit for-god's sake WHINING all the time
Well, guess what...WHATEVER you're doing, either clinging to someone like a orphaned baby octopus, or walking around going 'woe is me, I can't get any girls', looking like Lionel Richie with a 50-pound lower lip from making the sad-puppy face all the time, it ain't working!!! And people are reaching for the Ricola because they have sore throats from trying to TELL you it ain't working
My wife loves me because I am a combination of 2 sides: the side that knows how to listen when she has something to say, that has her back like she has mine, that knows how to be affectionate without having Super Glue on my hands, that knows how to be a friend as well as her husband...
And the other side: the one that takes absolutely no crap from ANYONE, either online or in the real world, the no-nonsense outspoken tells what time it is never bites his tongue or backs down side...it's like walking a tightrope studded with broken razor blades, blindfolded...you gotta strike that balance, and learn to be a little of BOTH sides I just described
Dude, women DO like confidence, and a li'l bit of macho, and acting like you have a purpose in life...some ladies here have also said they don't mind 'shyness' or 'affection'...but what they DON'T want is someone who walks around like a limp wiener, crying like a baby with nuclear-grade diaper rash, because 'women are so MEAN to me! '
Are you KIDDING? If you keep getting 'Horace, I can only be a sister to you...and no you can NOT have scratch and sniff picture of my vajayjay!', then maybe it's because what you have been doing is NOT WORKING, and you need to clean up your (expletive) act and find out what you need to improve about yourself, instead of b***hing and moaning on City Data every 2 hours, and blaming every woman with 2 legs, a skirt, and a heartbeat within 10 feet of you because they aren't buying your sad puppydog routine
Just as an fyi, clingy men can come off as stalkers.
You really should take a step back and stop being so clingy before a gal slaps a restraining order on you.
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