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Be careful with the money thing - if you're still married - doesn't matter if you signed for it or not - you may still have to pay if she gets a good enough lawyer - esp in a 50/50 state!
BE CAREFUL.
Anyway, your wife isn't making sense and I think it's becoming clearer that she obviously cares about you and doesn't want to hurt you, BUT doesn't wish to be involved with you marriage-wise or romantically anymore....
Again, not stating this as fact, but it's what I'm seeing right now. All you are doing is accomplishing little it seems...
There isn't much I can accomplish. This isn't going to be an overnight thing. It's going to take her a long while to figure out what she is doing - to figure out who she is, to pull her self-image out of the dumps, to feel better about herself, to figure out that she has a man willing to sacrifice everything to give her the world, and hopefully rediscover why she fell in love with me in the first place. It may take her months, it may take her years, but I think eventually she will come around.
I think you'd be better off just contacting a lawyer and starting the divorce/dissolusion before she does. Sure it'll hurt. But not nearly as much as the suffering your gonna be put through by the wife and her drama. I don't think she's gonna "come around". If you can't be husband and wife...maybe you can be friends.
...to figure out that she has a man willing to sacrifice everything to give her the world, and hopefully rediscover why she fell in love with me in the first place. It may take her months, it may take her years...
Are you actually prepared and willing to spend years on this???
And why would you want to "sacrifice everything to give ...the world" to someone who can't even decide if they're still interested in you???
Are you actually prepared and willing to spend years on this???
And why would you want to "sacrifice everything to give ...the world" to someone who can't even decide if they're still interested in you???
Aren't you worth more than this??
Yup and why?... Because.
Worth more? Maybe, maybe not. I cant tell anyones worth let alone my own. All I know is what I want. and she is what I want. Always has been .
Just got back from a little shopping spree at the mall. Got some new clothes, new work shoes and talked to a very nice girl at the vans store. Having a good day so far. Just gotta go buy a few more things and wash the truck, it's covered in soggy dirt and ash .
Worth more? Maybe, maybe not. I cant tell anyones worth let alone my own. All I know is what I want. and she is what I want. Always has been .
Just got back from a little shopping spree at the mall. Got some new clothes, new work shoes and talked to a very nice girl at the vans store. Having a good day so far. Just gotta go buy a few more things and wash the truck, it's covered in soggy dirt and ash .
Sorta reminds me of one of the verses of a Cinderella song 'Save Me'.
"...Get yourself a house, get yourself a pretty wife, she'll collect your life insurance, when she connects you with a knife..."
I never heard that song, but I guess it depends on WHERE that knife connects... Do the names Lorena and John Bobbit give you a clue?
It may take her months, it may take her years, but I think eventually she will come around.
And what if she never does? Are you willing to waste your entire life on someone who has so little integrity that she's willing to string you along indefinitely?
Here's something to consider: As long as you follow her around like a little puppy dog, bowing to every whim and wish of hers, she's going to treat you like this. Why? Because you're telling her it's ok to treat you like this. You don't think you deserve better, and as long as you don't, neither will she.
However, if you were to wake up one day and decide that you DO deserve better, and proceed to seriously pursue a happy, rewarding life of your own without her (and I mean seriously pursue, not just pretend to), I predict that she'll suddenly decide you're the man she wants to spend the rest of her life with.
I also predict that if you do get some self-esteem and get that happy, rewarding life, you'll look back and realize just how pathetic this entire situation is, and that you're so much better off without her.
I'll say it again - people treat you the way you let them treat you. As long as you keep this up, the scenario will never, ever change. Neither one of you feel like you deserve any better than this. Life is short. Why settle for being treated like crap?
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