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Originally Posted by VAFury
I hate to ask for specifics, BUT..... She's flying to Memphis to visit the guy in Arkansas??? She hasn't formally MET the guy yet or anything??? Just been exchanging notes online???
Man I wish there was a way you could confront her with all of this without letting on that you hacked her computer....
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I did confront her. Last night at 200 AM. I went out, talked to my buddy (the private investigator I worked with before), had a few drinks with him. He volunteered to fly to memphis and follow her, taking pictures and what not for free. I declined his generous offer, as it would take alot of money to do that, and I was going to confront her anyways. He's a great friend. I have alot of great friends...
But I did confront her about her trip. I told her I hacked her computer's hard drive to find answers. She said she knew, she knew when I told her I had a dream. We talked for 3 hours. She asked me what I wanted to hear, I told her; the truth from now on. So she told me everything. Do I believe it all? I don't know. The trust isn't there anymore. What I do know, is that she's having an emotional affair with him. She says she's had second thoughts about going on this trip since the day she bought the tickets. Do I believe her? I dont know.
I told her
I want a divorce. I've been cheated on before (by another woman). I'm not doing it again.
She cried.
She said she still loves me. That my touch does the same to her it always has. My kiss, my touch, they make her heart drop like they always have. I asked her why she told me it had gone away... Then I answered my own question. You all know the answer.
She doesn't want to lose me. I told her she should have come clean earlier. That's what I wanted - for her to tell me the truth. But I had to hack her computer, find the truth, confront her with it. All while she lied to me point blank, many times.
She used to write these beautiful poems. I have one that she wrote me for valentine's day '06, I framed it and had it on the dresser in the bedroom so I could see it everyday. She told me she's been writing again. Alot. She said all of it is off-kilter. I told it's good she's writing her poems again, something I've encouraged since we've been together, but they are all probably about this guy.
The most hysterical part of all this?
This guy is
17 YEARS OLD. My wife is twenty.
She says she hasn't fantacized about him. She said she gets butterflies when
they call her. They. this 17-year-old, and his 13 year old sister. Apparently she has an emotional connection to both. That's pretty f*cked up.
I asked her if she has no physical attraction to him (This kid is f*cking ugly), what does she expect to do on her trip? /sarcasm Take the kiddies for ice cream so daddy can have some personal time? /end sarcasm
She said she didn't know. She just thought it would be fun to go see someone's family. that's when I said "...and it's fun to lie to me about it". I encouraged her to go on the trip, otherwise, she'll have those pesky "what-ifs" running through her head again. I Have his full name, his street address, everything. I told her she's lucky I'm not me 5 years ago, otherwise I would on a plane to kill him. Literally kill him. I would blow his brains out, slit his throat. But that was five years ago. I'm wiser, and he's 17. He has a whole life he's going to f*ck up. THAT is justice enough.
so....
Divorce papers will be filed. End of story. I told her I still love her, but I do not trust her, it will take a long long time to get that trust back, if ever.
It's funny how things change now that I am in control.
something else she said - It's hards to convey correctly, but basically the gist of it is: She doesn't know if she can devote herself to me completely. I told her; when you realize you've f*cked up, when you wake up in the morning and want to be with me, hear MY voice (Not his), feel my touch, and WANT TO BE WITH ME, that's when you know you love me, for sure, 100%. Until then, YOU need to find what's drawing you to this person. YOU need to figure out your head. YOU will never have another meaningfull relationship until you get yourself together. and I'm here. I will probably be at my parents for the next 10 years, helping my wheelchair-bound mother until she dies. I wont change my cell phone number. She knows where to find me. But until then, it's over.
and I told her to tell her mother everything. She said no. I haven't threatened to tell her mother myself, but I will. Maybe not now, but I will. I'll make my wife call her mother in front of me, and break that poor womans heart. She needs to know that her daughter did the exact same thing her sleeze-ball ex husband did. Cheat over the internet.
anyways, I'll catch you guys later. Thanks macrina for the link, I appreciate it.
and thank you, everyone who has followed my story, watched me stumble through this maze of razorwire, and screamed for me to get out. Thank you so much.
I'll catch you l8r
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I'm so sorry for your loss....
(though I think she'd already sampled the goods and I knew who it was).... 
