dating my wife... (long-term, marriage, guys, husband)

[thelostsouls]

Don't do it! just kidding...

Well I just got home from my first official date with my wife. We went to a haunted house, and also went on a haunted hay ride. It was fun, mainly for kids/teenagers, but still a fun time for both of us. I had planned to go to the beach before hand to watch the sun go down, but the wife has to drive, and her car was out of gas. So she filled her tank and we went to starbucks instead. The trip down to the haunted house took all of an hour, so we were back home at 830. She wasn't hungry, so we didn't eat, and she was tired from not being able to sleep at night (went to bed at 3 AM and had to wake up at 6). We had a smoke, she gave me a big hug, and a kiss... Before I left I said 'one of these days, you're going to mean that' (the kiss). She got a goofey smile on her face and said Ill see you later, have a good night at work.
So I guess we'll plan a trip to the aquarium for next time... or maybe something spontaneous, like a simple movie or something.

I'm not discouraged by tonight, but rather looking forward to our next date.

[courtaz]

Good for you and your wife making the effort to get out of the everyday routine. I laughed out loud on your comment of her goofy smile - see - you already have memories stored from the night!

[ProLogic]

Are you guys getting back together or something?

[Arcticthaw]

Originally Posted by thelostsouls

Don't do it! just kidding...

Well I just got home from my first official date with my wife. We went to a haunted house, and also went on a haunted hay ride. It was fun, mainly for kids/teenagers, but still a fun time for both of us. I had planned to go to the beach before hand to watch the sun go down, but the wife has to drive, and her car was out of gas. So she filled her tank and we went to starbucks instead. The trip down to the haunted house took all of an hour, so we were back home at 830. She wasn't hungry, so we didn't eat, and she was tired from not being able to sleep at night (went to bed at 3 AM and had to wake up at 6). We had a smoke, she gave me a big hug, and a kiss... Before I left I said 'one of these days, you're going to mean that' (the kiss). She got a goofey smile on her face and said Ill see you later, have a good night at work.
So I guess we'll plan a trip to the aquarium for next time... or maybe something spontaneous, like a simple movie or something.

I'm not discouraged by tonight, but rather looking forward to our next date.

Good for you, now keep it up! Bring her A flower. If you ever wrote her letters or notes, remember how and leave her something to find later.

Your starting all over again rebuilding what brought you together the first time.

Have fun.

[Pikantari]

Was wondering where you have been! Am hoping for you, that from now on, only good things will be happening in your life.

I hope all will be well. Good not to be discouraged, but take it slow....PLEASE!

Sometimes we think of the phrase, 'Don't look back' But sometimes, we have to.

((((((((((((LOST))))))))))))))

[Rhett_Butler]

Well, certainly unconventional, but in this day and age maybe that's exactly what society needs. New solutions to old problems..

[thelostsouls]

Originally Posted by ProLogic

Are you guys getting back together or something?

Unfortunately, No. She wants a long-term separation, and she has mentioned divorce, but is having second thoughts. We're dating eachother to try and get the spark she lost back.

I hope all will be well. Good not to be discouraged, but take it slow....PLEASE!

Definately! next date will be late next week at the earliest. we will have minimal contact until then.
When she starts to drop her defenses then I'll know i'm making progress.

Good for you, now keep it up! Bring her A flower. If you ever wrote her letters or notes, remember how and leave her something to find later.

We used to exchange 8-10 emails a day. I'll try to get her to do that again...

Come to think of it, I remember she wrote me a poem after we first married... I still have it saved in my email. I should post it... maybe not, it's personal to me. hmmmm....

[kaykay]

I don't know your history, but wish you the best. My husband and I counseled a couple who are friends of ours a couple of years ago. She separated from him and he did not want separation/divorce. He hung in there like a bulldog untill she moved back home. It IS possible. Hang in.

Here is a good website I often recommend for marital situations--

Marriage Builders ® - Successful Marriage Advice

Praying for you,

kaykay

[Synopsis]

I hope things go well for you lostsouls. But, please have your antenna up for any type of manipulative behavior. I commend you for trying to save your marriage; good luck.

[thelostsouls]

What a crazy life. Just when you thought it couldn't get worse, it does.

Heard about the SoCal fires? Yeah, We're right in the middle of it. Had to evacuate today... I got my parents and sister to my grandmother's house which is near the beach, out of harms way but still possibly in danger. My sister's house could be burned to the ground right now, we dont know yet. She had to evac last night around 2 AM. She's currently here, with my parents, back at thier home for the time being. We came back after the mandatory evacs were lifted.

My wife didn't want to go with my parents and I to my grandmothers' near the beach, instead she went to her friends house and told me to take care of my parents. Yeah, whatever hunny. She was freaking out as this is her first CA firestorm. We got her valued possessions together (she grabbed her wedding rings...) and got her and the kittens to safety.
4 years ago we had a similar firestorm and I volunteered to fight the fires. I was planning on doing the same this time, but my wife made me promise not to. So I'm sitting here twiddling my thumbs. Im really not worried, i've been through this countless times before, and honestly I have nothing to worry about. My family will be safe, my wife will be safe...

Back to the topic of this thread...
We went on a date last night. Went out to eat, went to a pumpkin patch and picked out two pumpkins, and then went and saw a movie (resident evil 3 - avoid it if possible, it sucked). It was a good date, we had fun and we also talked a bit. She said she's numb, she really doesn't feel any emotion towards me. She asked me if our marriage could be like it was, and I said no, it can be better then it was, especially now that I've grown and learned from my mistakes.

but i'm going to go now, ill see you guys later.