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Old 01-27-2013, 05:27 PM
 
Location: South Carolina
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I was reading it and I was thinking to myself yeah I would say the marriage is doomed but they have been together 4 yrs , what gives here ? do you think she should have stayed with him for four years ? I would not have but that is me ...
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Old 01-27-2013, 05:29 PM
 
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Ounce a cheater always a cheater.
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Old 01-27-2013, 05:39 PM
 
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There is no formula for a "doomed" relationship.
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Old 01-27-2013, 05:46 PM
 
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Maybe they were trying to work things out. Just because you wouldn't do that doesn't mean that other couples wouldn't.

I also don't believe in the "once a cheater, always a cheater" mentality that some folks do.
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Old 01-27-2013, 05:48 PM
 
Location: Atlanta & NYC
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Wtf? Anytime a spouse cheats on their spouse, the marriage is usually damaged.

Dumb question.

Learn to use common sense people.
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Old 01-27-2013, 05:52 PM
 
Location: Australia
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Most marriages are doomed.

Statistical fact.

I would say that a woman who is knowingly with a man who cheats, knows that he is a player, and ignores it, so is actually MORE likely to stay permanently married to the douche because she chooses to be co-dependant and spineless.
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Old 01-27-2013, 06:06 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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9 months in, you're supposed to be all lovey-dovey, the honeymoon phase, if you will.

Doesn't bode well if you're looking/cheating at that stage of a marriage.

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Old 01-27-2013, 06:16 PM
 
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fo sho
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Old 01-28-2013, 08:45 AM
 
Location: Chicago, IL
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I was reading it and I was thinking to myself yeah I would say the marriage is doomed but they have been together 4 yrs , what gives here ? do you think she should have stayed with him for four years ? I would not have but that is me ...
It's up to the people in the marriage to decide, and no one else. The whole idea that an act of extramarital sex should instantly mean the end of the marriage is a rather American notion, and a fairly recent one at that. In Europe and elsewhere, infidelity is more likely to be viewed as a problem to be worked through, as with any marital problem. Sometimes people can work through it, and sometimes they can't. Personally I wish more people in our culture would try to work through it, and I would never criticize anyone for successfully doing so. Good for them.
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Old 01-28-2013, 10:04 AM
 
Location: NY
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I bet the majority of marriages would end in this situation, but there is no rule that says it must end. Especially when evaluating it through such generalizations.

A lot of couples can get beyond an instance of cheating, and rebuild the trust in their relationship. Many cannot too. It is situation specific.
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