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Please be kind when you decline to go out with him any more. And I hope you learned a lesson from this, that you have to answer to yourself first, NOT to others who could possible take you down with them.
While I may not want to go out with him as a date nor will see him as a bf, I have no problems in being friends with him. He seems better than my friends. I would honestly rather talk to him than be with my friends and again listen to their shallow conversations.
I cannot believe I burned my bra once upon a time for the likes of this. Honestly, when I read the OP's initial post I was going to assume the poster was a testosterone-laden adolescent boy. But to see this was from a group of girls? I hope Juan dumps this girl and she then discovers he is far superior to the subsequent "boys" she meets.
Sheesh
I really want to back out of this dare but don't know how to. We usually dared each other and then get paid somewhere between $5-$30 (depending onthe dare) but this time I feel this has gone too far. Our conversation went along this line:
Friend 1: You know I haven't try this dare on you Trapped96
Me: What dare?
2 other friends: Do you know Juan?
Me: Yes, what about it?
Friends: We dare you to date pizzaboy (that's what they called him, I don't) for 1 month for $20.
Me: Can we do something else? I don't think he's ugly but he's not my type. I don't like the idea of doing dares involving people.
Friends: all of them kept insisting and pressuing me into this till I gave in
It's been 2 weeks so far but he's not really my type and to be honest he does have moderate acne (not bad but still, it's obvious), seems kinda chubby and not too humorous. But this is starting to get serious and he's like telling me some of his personal secrets. I like him as a person, friend but not as a date. I just want to get out of his dare. It wasn't my idea.
Is there a way I can back out of it in the least painful way? If I were to tell him the truth, he's going to probably hate me forever or I'll have the reputation of a user and have trouble falling asleep. If I don't, he'll wonder what's going and my friends (they don't always keep secrets and at times seem mean to others) will spill the beans.
I think your best bet is to give Juan that you think of him as a friend and not as a bf, so it doesn't go any further. Give your "friends" their $20 and don't say another word about it. There's a good chance the bet will get back to Juan, so be prepared for it. When it does, all you can do is apologize for it and say you'd like to keep him as a friend if he'll have you (likely he won't). You'll have to take your lumps as they come. Learn and move on.
I think we are all a little too old to be doing dares to do anything. That's how people get hurt literally and figuratively. If you don't like the guy, than leave it there. You don't even have to lie. Just say you had a nice time, but you two are not on the same compatibility wave length. No harm no foul. You are already nit picking the guys attributes. It sounds like you wanted the ego boost and using your friends as the scapegoat.....
I really want to back out of this dare but don't know how to. We usually dared each other and then get paid somewhere between $5-$30 (depending onthe dare) but this time I feel this has gone too far. Our conversation went along this line:
Friend 1: You know I haven't try this dare on you Trapped96
Me: What dare?
2 other friends: Do you know Juan?
Me: Yes, what about it?
Friends: We dare you to date pizzaboy (that's what they called him, I don't) for 1 month for $20.
Me: Can we do something else? I don't think he's ugly but he's not my type. I don't like the idea of doing dares involving people.
Friends: all of them kept insisting and pressuing me into this till I gave in
It's been 2 weeks so far but he's not really my type and to be honest he does have moderate acne (not bad but still, it's obvious), seems kinda chubby and not too humorous. But this is starting to get serious and he's like telling me some of his personal secrets. I like him as a person, friend but not as a date. I just want to get out of his dare. It wasn't my idea.
Is there a way I can back out of it in the least painful way? If I were to tell him the truth, he's going to probably hate me forever or I'll have the reputation of a user and have trouble falling asleep. If I don't, he'll wonder what's going and my friends (they don't always keep secrets and at times seem mean to others) will spill the beans.
Let's see. Cruel. Manipulative. Sounds as if you have terrible friends. And by consenting to this bet, you really are stooping to their level. I'd let this guy down gently, lose the bet, and never talk to these people again.
This wasn't my idea. I would have rather prefer being dared to have horse or cow manure thrown at me than pretending to like someone who is already struggling, only to ruin whatever self-esteem will be left over after this.
I declined the dare but they kept on being persistent about it and I didn't wanted to look like the loser in the group. They can be mean at times.
It wasn't your idea, but you went along with it.
You are all being total a**holes and you in particular are being incredibly cruel to another human being. Even in high school you should know better.
(And seriously, what did you expect us to say? "Wow, that sounds like a fun thing for you to do"? Holy crap. I can't believe the cruelty that passes for "fun" these days.)
I don't want to. I was forced into this stupid dare. Once again, this wasn't my idea.
Look, I know you're 18. But nobody is forcing you to do anything. Don't blame them if you had a lack of backbone.
However, you are showing the essential signs of budding maturity by even being on this board. You need to understand that these kinds of actions are essentially mean in nature, no matter how nice you were to the guy on these dates. The sooner you treat people with basic respect, the more you'll like yourself in the future.
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