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I agree don't try to be friends, he'll claim that he's okay with that but pine for you secretly anyway, and when you start dating someone else, he'll puke all over you about all the nice things he did for you and how women only like jerks. IMO you may have to be firm with him.
Don´t wanna be intrusive or someting,but what you mean with "date"? Did you have sex with him?
I mean, "He's really nice, kind, caring and a perfect gentleman. We've gone on a few casual dates and he seemed like a promising guy " doesn´t look like casual comments about a new aquaintance.
I am not judging you or something, but have you started a fire that you can´t handle?
Cut it off NOW. No contact. Tell him you think it's best you don't have any contact for a while. Then block his number. If you see him in the hall, acknowledge him politely and keep going. He has violated all sorts of boundaries and you need to put a stop to it before it escalates any further.
Don´t wanna be intrusive or someting,but what you mean with "date"? Did you have sex with him?
I mean, "He's really nice, kind, caring and a perfect gentleman. We've gone on a few casual dates and he seemed like a promising guy " doesn´t look like casual comments about a new aquaintance.
I am not judging you or something, but have you started a fire that you can´t handle?
Doesn't matter. She's uncomfortable and he's acting crazy. those are the only relevant facts.
Hopefully he's harmless, just overzealous. I think you should tell him that you can't be friends or have any contact. If you try to be friends with him anytime you say or do anything nice he will think you want more than friends. And he will go back into crazy mode.
Don´t wanna be intrusive or someting,but what you mean with "date"? Did you have sex with him?
I mean, "He's really nice, kind, caring and a perfect gentleman. We've gone on a few casual dates and he seemed like a promising guy " doesn´t look like casual comments about a new aquaintance.
I am not judging you or something, but have you started a fire that you can´t handle?
No, we did not have sex. Takes a lot more than good intentions and a few dates to get me in bed. Not every woman in the world equates dating with shagging. :P
Regardless, whether we had sex or not is immaterial. He's creepy, I'm uncomfortable and that's the core issue. I'm going to just firmly let him know that I'm not interested in a relationship, his behavior was unacceptable and that he should forget me. I don't want to hurt him, but that seems to be the best idea. Hopefully he learns.
No, we did not have sex. Takes a lot more than good intentions and a few dates to get me in bed. Not every woman in the world equates dating with shagging. :P
Regardless, whether we had sex or not is immaterial. He's creepy, I'm uncomfortable and that's the core issue. I'm going to just firmly let him know that I'm not interested in a relationship, his behavior was unacceptable and that he should forget me. I don't want to hurt him, but that seems to be the best idea. Hopefully he learns.
Sounds to me like you can't even be friends with him. You could offer him friendship only just once more. tell him. "I think of you as a friend, nothing more" you do not have to respond to all his texts. What makes you think you are "obligated" to do so? Do not accept gifts from him. If he does not understand friends only, tell him to leave you alone completely. I know it's mean but he has no concept of boundaries and you'd be doing him a favor teaching him. Sorry if that's harsh. I don't like this kind of stuff!
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