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Depends on what you want. Casual Dating situation or Long term relationship.
My advice: Don't settle for less than you want.
If a man is truly interested in developing a relationship with you his intentions will be very clear through the dating process. You won't have to wonder where the relationship is going because he will be very straightforward with you. No way in hell you should be asking him about becoming exclusive. That is his job. If he hasn't brought up the girlfriend title or introduced you to some of his friends within the next 3-4 weeks I would be concerned.
Nobody wants to be strung along. Not saying that is what is happening, but don't be like many others that allow that to happen.
Yes , it is way to early. As log as he's not talking about dating other people or leaving his profile up and appears to be exclusive to you, I wouldn't worry about it.
This.
I remind you that it's only been 1 month or 4 weeks. Perhaps you are feeling vulnerable because you really like him. You should just enjoy it and stop thinking. That's what's appropriate at this time. Don't change anything else in your life.
This is somewhat unexpected. I've been seeing a guy about a month. We have been out probably 6 or 7 times at this point, and he's already met a bunch of my friends (who all think he's awesome - and he likes them, and frequently asks about them).
I'm very attracted to him, and I love that he's a fully formed adult. 45, knows who he is, no glaring insecurities, no unresolved issues that I can see. He's rowdy and raunchy, but completely kind and accepting to everyone he meets. He's HAPPY. We are laughing the entire time we're together. Our sex drives are very similar, and we are definitely "compatible" in that regard. We both have fully developed lives, so there's no neediness on either side, which is also cool. This guy doesn't need me to fill any voids, ya know?
Based on his comments, he's not seeing anyone else, and he's assuming that I'm not seeing anyone else (I'm not - just took down my OKC profile).
So at what point is it appropriate to have a relationship status conversation? A month seems way early to me, but he's been pretty clear that he's assuming we're exclusive, which is why I'm a little confused. I could fall really hard here, and I'd like to manage my expectations. I might even be finding myself facing exactly what I'm looking for (an exclusive relationship, with no necessary timeline for anything more) - I've got a feeling he doesn't really have an agenda either.
Things just feel comfortable, and I don't want to screw that up.
A month is not too early to start a conversation about this. If he has any common sense--and it sounds like he does--he knows most people in your situation will assume a relationship is exclusive unless they have some reason not to.
Ugh. I Hate "labels", and "talks". Jasper12, runs quickly and ducks.
Isn't hanging out for now good enough? Just wait, when you start making long term plans, like planning a trip together, that is four months away, you are already there....no discussion needed.
That you are wondering about this means you do not feel secure in your situation. Me, I have never had a good outcome when I wondered about a dating situation. One month is far too soon to have this discussion. I think you have to suck it up and wait. And continue to enjoy yourself. A month is so early in the process, you should simply be having an easy, fun time. You should be enjoying each others company, and exploring each other sexually. You have plenty to do rather than wonder about commitment so early in the game. So enjoy the budding relationship instead!
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