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I had concluded, in my younger wiser (it seems) days that if a guy likes you you can do no wrong . . .I hope he comes around because I doubt I'll do anything
Yeah, that's not how it works. If it did, you probably wouldn't be single, right?
If you say so. I know I got away with some sh*t in my younger days. Must have been hotter than I thought
Or the were just dumber and put up with it. Hell, the things I put up with even 3 years ago wouldn't even have the opportunity to begin to happen to me now.
I just got done with a date I was a little unsure of tonight. I didn't like the location but thought she was a nice girl but couldn't quite tell if she was interested.. but I did like her.
I wasn't really planning on going back out with her.
However, what did she do? She sent me a couple really nice text messages. I responded we texted for about an hour.
I was on the edge with her, she texted me and showed interest and now I will definitely be asking her to go back out with me. I have another date lined up with another girl for the weekend too.. but if this girl pans out she will take precedence.
Just a little example of how some initiative can change things.
Not really playing games. Any constructive answers, please?
Actually, it sounds like you are (or were) playing games.
People you actually like and are actually worth the trouble are inevitably going to challenge you and force you come out of your comfort zone...make you meet them halfway, so to speak. So if you're coming in here and readily admitting that you're going to not return his text messages or initiate any contact yourself, I guess you really don't want what you're after. Of course he's going assume you aren't really interested. What else is he supposed to assume? That you're game player? That's an even bigger turn-off to well-adjusted people.
I just got done with a date I was a little unsure of tonight. I didn't like the location but thought she was a nice girl but couldn't quite tell if she was interested.. but I did like her.
I wasn't really planning on going back out with her.
However, what did she do? She sent me a couple really nice text messages. I responded we texted for about an hour.
I was on the edge with her, she texted me and showed interest and now I will definitely be asking her to go back out with me. I have another date lined up with another girl for the weekend too.. but if this girl pans out she will take precedence.
Just a little example of how some initiative can change things.
She took a risk and put herself on the line a little bit. If there were ever a case of "give nothing, get nothing", it certainly applies to love and romantic relationships.
Actually, it sounds like you are (or were) playing games.
People you actually like and are actually worth the trouble are inevitably going to challenge you and force you come out of your comfort zone...make you meet them halfway, so to speak. So if you're coming in here and readily admitting that you're going to not return his text messages or initiate any contact yourself, I guess you really don't want what you're after. Of course he's going assume you aren't really interested. What else is he supposed to assume? That you're game player? That's an even bigger turn-off to well-adjusted people.
Was that constructive?
I ALWAYS returned his text messages, and agreed to any future plan he made with me. I didn't understand why he suddenly waited 5 days to txt when the usual was 2 or 3 so I was mad. Yes, I know that's an overreaction and I do regret it now. That was the only time I took a long time to respond. about 9 hours. Still, he had said we should get together soon and I told him the 2 days I was available. He is the one who never responded at that point and it's been a week. So I'm debating weather to try again or not. Isn't there some truth to the idea that if he wanted to see me this week he would have? I gave him 2 days I was available. He never responded therefor choosing neither. So I am unsure weather or not to text again.
I'm wondering if there's a chance he just thinks I'm not interested because I never initiate contact? It's been a week now, he never texted back. Men, if you're dating online and in your early 30s, I'd especially like to hear from you . . .
I'm not in my early 30s, but that's exactly what I'd think.
I ALWAYS returned his text messages, and agreed to any future plan he made with me. I didn't understand why he suddenly waited 5 days to txt when the usual was 2 or 3 so I was mad. Yes, I know that's an overreaction and I do regret it now. That was the only time I took a long time to respond. about 9 hours. Still, he had said we should get together soon and I told him the 2 days I was available. He is the one who never responded at that point and it's been a week. So I'm debating weather to try again or not. Isn't there some truth to the idea that if he wanted to see me this week he would have? I gave him 2 days I was available. He never responded therefor choosing neither. So I am unsure weather or not to text again.
Who knows. Maybe give him one more chance though.
"Hey! What happened to you last week? "
Doesn't need to be any more complicated than that. Anything less than a sincere apology and definite plans to get together should be interpreted as lack of interest,
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