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Old 02-04-2013, 10:45 PM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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This example that happened today sums it up :


Was in the city, without altering my journey, was checking out a girl when walking. 2 mins or so of checking her out she stops and lights a smoke (dealbreaker #1)......2 minutes after that she was approaching a strip club, I said to myself whats the bet and sure enough she goes in (dealbreaker #2 and worse than #1).

She is the typical type of girl I will approach and talk to in social situations. Highly attractive but often carries other traits I don't want. Its a tough habit to break.
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Old 02-04-2013, 10:47 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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This example that happened today sums it up :


Was in the city, without altering my journey, was checking out a girl when walking. 2 mins or so of checking her out she stops and lights a smoke (dealbreaker #1)......2 minutes after that she was approaching a strip club, I said to myself whats the bet and sure enough she goes in (dealbreaker #2 and worse than #1).

She is the typical type of girl I will approach and talk to in social situations. Highly attractive but often carries other traits I don't want. Its a tough habit to break.
What's the mistake?

[you didn't do anything]
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Old 02-04-2013, 10:47 PM
 
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This example that happened today sums it up :


Was in the city, without altering my journey, was checking out a girl when walking. 2 mins or so of checking her out she stops and lights a smoke (dealbreaker #1)......2 minutes after that she was approaching a strip club, I said to myself whats the bet and sure enough she goes in (dealbreaker #2 and worse than #1).

She is the typical type of girl I will approach and talk to in social situations. Highly attractive but often carries other traits I don't want. Its a tough habit to break.

What's the mistake?
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Old 02-04-2013, 10:48 PM
 
Location: The Mitten
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What's the mistake?

[you didn't do anything]
Maybe thinking she was dating material?
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Old 02-04-2013, 10:49 PM
 
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Maybe thinking she was dating material?
She is dating material, maybe not for him, but I see no reason to think she's not dating material
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Old 02-04-2013, 10:51 PM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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The mistake is, when I first saw her there was instant attraction and on another day I would have got talking to her.
I have a habit of being attracted to women that I find attractive but have other traits which aren't going to work for me in a relationship.
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Old 02-04-2013, 10:51 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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I'm going to assume you're referring to going against our dealbreakers for someone hot.


Do I? Heck yeah I do. I actually made a thread about this not too long ago. I have all kinds of dealbreakers, which are basically just easy ways for me to weed out ugly women. When it comes down to it, there aren't many deal breakers I have as long as they're really hot and really nice.
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Old 02-04-2013, 10:53 PM
 
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The mistake is, when I first saw her there was instant attraction and on another day I would have got talking to her.
I have a habit of being attracted to women that I find attractive but have other traits which aren't going to work for me in a relationship.
So your mistake is...

...thinking you can judge a person just based on their looks?

Yes, that's a mistake.

No. It's not a mistake that I make.
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Old 02-04-2013, 10:54 PM
 
Location: The Mitten
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She is dating material, maybe not for him, but I see no reason to think she's not dating material
I didn't say she wasn't. I can look past the smoking and maybe the extra traits, too.
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Old 02-04-2013, 10:59 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Maybe thinking she was dating material?
How the hell do you think that before you even talk to someone?
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