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Why does physical attraction equal love? What does one thing have to do with the other thing?
It's like I were to go to a law firm...............
"Hey man, hire me as a lawyer".
"Your resume please"
"Oh I don't have any resume. I never went to law school. I don't know the first thing about the law, about jury selection, about presenting a case......................."
if you cannot imagine kissing them..like the idea disgusts you....im not sure that will ever change BUT..like Raena said, if you think someone is ok but not quite your thing, like you see them as a friend (we tend to be friends with people who we find attractive in some way whether female or male) there is that slight chance your feelings may change.
I have to say that all your responses make me feel a whole lot better. Thank you all.
I have mixed feelings about this. In a way, I don't have any desires of getting to know this gentleman better, even though he had quite a few things to say. He has a lot of interests, is quite successful in his career field. I tried to remember what my mom said, "After you reach certain age, all men look the same." I don't think I can get pass the physical attraction thing.
I mean he does not have to be hot, but he has to be cute in my eyes. This guy I am sure is cute in other women's eyes, but he is too short for me, he is 5 7 with shoes on I am 5 9, in addition to this, that bad breath thing is a little bit of a turn off to me too.
He thought we had great connection, that is what he said at the end of the conversation. I feel kind of bad about the whole thing.
Sounds like you feel guilty for not being physically attracted to a person who has qualities you otherwise like.
Don't be. And don't listen to anyone who says "oh, just give him a chance" or as you quoted "all men look the same after a certain age". In dating, people love giving advice that they don't follow ***cough*** especially women *** cough ***
One can become more interested in someone over time, but usually there has to be some sort of physical attraction at first. As I've said, one of my first girlfriends, we met and were friends for a while. But I did initially think "she's cute, I'd **** her". I'm also someone who doesn't fall in love with someone at first sight, so a person has to grow on me.
Anyway, point is, I do think there has to be at least a physical spark at first, as in "he/she is cute, I'm cool with being friends and getting to know this person" almost in a sub conscious way. You didn't here, no big deal. Move on to the next. That you obviously don't want to hurt his feelings shows that you're a good person. He'll get over it.
Why does physical attraction equal love? What does one thing have to do with the other thing?
It's like I were to go to a law firm...............
"Hey man, hire me as a lawyer".
"Your resume please"
"Oh I don't have any resume. I never went to law school. I don't know the first thing about the law, about jury selection, about presenting a case......................."
"But I can sing like Michael Jackson"
well physical attraction leads to sex or love making whichever term you would like to use.
Love making is NOT an option, it is a requirement in a loving, committed heterosexual relationship between man and woman.
Why does physical attraction equal love? What does one thing have to do with the other thing?
This question has been asked on this forum, believe me. Usually it's the guys who say they have to be physically attracted to a woman in order to be interested.
IRL, it often doesn't work that way. Sometimes a guy will be struck by some woman's personality, or her unusual interests that mirror his own, and once he's noticed her, then he starts noticing physical attributes that he appreciates.
But this isn't real life, this is C-D. Thanks for your input, though.
Sounds like you feel guilty for not being physically attracted to a person who has qualities you otherwise like.
Don't be. And don't listen to anyone who says "oh, just give him a chance" or as you quoted "all men look the same after a certain age". In dating, people love giving advice that they don't follow ***cough*** especially women *** cough ***
One can become more interested in someone over time, but usually there has to be some sort of physical attraction at first. As I've said, one of my first girlfriends, we met and were friends for a while. But I did initially think "she's cute, I'd **** her". I'm also someone who doesn't fall in love with someone at first sight, so a person has to grow on me.
Anyway, point is, I do think there has to be at least a physical spark at first, as in "he/she is cute, I'm cool with being friends and getting to know this person" almost in a sub conscious way. You didn't here, no big deal. Move on to the next. That you obviously don't want to hurt his feelings shows that you're a good person. He'll get over it.
Why does physical attraction equal love? What does one thing have to do with the other thing?
It's like I were to go to a law firm...............
"Hey man, hire me as a lawyer".
"Your resume please"
"Oh I don't have any resume. I never went to law school. I don't know the first thing about the law, about jury selection, about presenting a case......................."
"But I can sing like Michael Jackson"
using your anology, the looks/attraction is the RESUME, uninterested parties may not even ask for an interview if the resume doesnt match what they are looking for...
well physical attraction leads to sex or love making whichever term you would like to use.
Love making is NOT an option, it is a requirement in a loving, committed heterosexual relationship between man and woman.
Lots of different things will lead to sex but the OP wasn't talking body parts here but I take it facial attraction as I take it that the poor rejected fellow was fully clothed at the time.
using your anology, the looks/attraction is the RESUME, uninterested parties may not even ask for an interview if the resume doesnt match what they are looking for...
How so? I don't see the looks/attraction as equaling the resume.
Lots of different things will lead to sex but the OP wasn't talking body parts here but I take it facial attraction as I take it that the poor rejected fellow was fully clothed at the time.
poor rejected fellow was fully clothed Yes. At least, he was decent. and your point?
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