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Okay, well that puts things in perspective. When you're younger, the courting ritual is typically different in comparison to older folks. FWIW, I would avoid any sort of intimate relationship with someone you work with. If it doesn't work out, you're stuck working with that person.
As far as if she likes you, that's up in the air without closely evaluating the situation. She could be playing hard to get, or she could simply be avoiding you for other reasons.
Its impossible to call. I get alot of mixed signals from her.
I'm confused about this girl at my job. When I first met her she seemed like she was disgusted by me. I went to shake her hand introducing myself and she was hesitant to shake my hand and it seemed as if she was put off by me. A few days later my co workers told me she went on my facebook and she checked out my pictures with me only in my wifebeater. She told my co workers I had nice arms. Of course my co -workers ran back and told me about it. My co workers made a few jokes here and there about it and they insist she likes me. She won't even come around me or even make eye contact. Everytime I try to make small talk with her she will just walk away or blatantly ignore me. She makes a strong effort to avoid me. I'm confused. I'm not sure how I should approach her or if I should approach her at all. She is EXTREMELY attractive . . Somebody let me know what the deal is. Thanks
I don't know. This seems weird. If she works with you and was weird about meeting you, she was either 1. extremely taken aback by you (are you strikingly good looking?) or 2. You were drooling obviously over her and it weirded her out or 3. Is just clueless about workplace etiquette.
They confronted her about it in front if me she blushed and ran out the room and then they kept harrasing her about it and she said she did say that.
The also make love jokes and she smiles about it....
If she hate me why would she check out my facebook...
I'm not disagreeing with you I'm trying to understand your viewpoint
I SUPER suck at reading women, but given that it sounds like what's going on is that you're seeing more of what you WANT to see and less of what is actually THERE. I do it ALL THE TIME, so don't sweat it -- it's normal, especially when you're "crushing". But I have to say, in my experience the best relationship always include great communication (and to the same point, no relationship can be truly great without great communication, IMO), and most women also happen to find that a HUGE turn-on! So that being said, until you two ARE in fact communicating (and I mean hitting it off, not just talking for the sake of making noise communication), I'd wait. But be optimistic.....women seem to like that too!
My advice (and taken from the movie "Boiler Room"): Act as if. Act as if you are married and are in love with somebody else. Act as if you wake up every day to 1 hour of sex and come home to 2 hours more (IOW you don't need sex). Act as if you have other (better) options and this girl is just another girl that you are keeping your options open with "just in case". Act as if you could not care less what she says, thinks, or wants of you because you don't NEED her, you just WANT her but she can't shake your confidence. Fake it 'till you make it -- that seems to be the prevailing theme here. And it pretty much works.....everybody wants what they think is just out of reach, and nobody wants somebody who is zero challenge and can be walked all over (whether or not it's actually true is moot, it's all about perception until she actually knows you). Be confident (not cocky) and sincere, and definitely be yourself as much as possible, even if she makes you nervous. I have never heard of anybody actually preferring the Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde routine (dual personality....i.e. not being yourself)!
Good luck buddy!!
P.S. I wanted to add that it sounds very much like your group is about to be in for some SERIOUS sexual harrassment charges! I'm not kidding! What you've described of your co-workers' treatment of this girl is over-the-top harrassment and somebody is going to get sued!!
I SUPER suck at reading women, but given that it sounds like what's going on is that you're seeing more of what you WANT to see and less of what is actually THERE. I do it ALL THE TIME, so don't sweat it -- it's normal, especially when you're "crushing". But I have to say, in my experience the best relationship always include great communication (and to the same point, no relationship can be truly great without great communication, IMO), and most women also happen to find that a HUGE turn-on! So that being said, until you two ARE in fact communicating (and I mean hitting it off, not just talking for the sake of making noise communication), I'd wait. But be optimistic.....women seem to like that too!
My advice (and taken from the movie "Boiler Room"): Act as if. Act as if you are married and are in love with somebody else. Act as if you wake up every day to 1 hour of sex and come home to 2 hours more (IOW you don't need sex). Act as if you have other (better) options and this girl is just another girl that you are keeping your options open with "just in case". Act as if you could not care less what she says, thinks, or wants of you because you don't NEED her, you just WANT her but she can't shake your confidence. Fake it 'till you make it -- that seems to be the prevailing theme here. And it pretty much works.....everybody wants what they think is just out of reach, and nobody wants somebody who is zero challenge and can be walked all over (whether or not it's actually true is moot, it's all about perception until she actually knows you). Be confident (not cocky) and sincere, and definitely be yourself as much as possible, even if she makes you nervous. I have never heard of anybody actually preferring the Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde routine (dual personality....i.e. not being yourself)!
Good luck buddy!!
P.S. I wanted to add that it sounds very much like your group is about to be in for some SERIOUS sexual harrassment charges! I'm not kidding! What you've described of your co-workers' treatment of this girl is over-the-top harrassment and somebody is going to get sued!!
thanks for the info...
I don't know if she would sue them..
She told them that she liked my body...She knew it was going to get back to me...
I recently started working there a week ago and shes been there for a few months.
She knew their personality.
Your right I'll just fall back.
If she wants me she will show it and if she doesn't at least I didnt get fired or sued.
She secretly fantasized about you. Then when you come around she doesn't want you to read her thoughts.
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