Having sex with a married coworker? (marriage, men, family, attractive)
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Sex with a co-worker is fine if you can keep it far, far out of the office.
In this case, it's a disaster waiting to happen. She's married so you automatically have a third party involved who may/may not be totally insane with rage and capable of pretty much anything.
I have worked with people who have met at work, fallen in love at work, and spent their time "visiting" each others desks to coo endlessly, and generally being a total pain in the a55.
Two of my colleagues even got married to each other!
One girl was so beautiful every man in the place hit on her, a few of them she dated so we all had to put up with x, y, or z hanging around the photocopier with lustful eyes and private whispers.
She got a reputation, inevitably, and each one went wrong, one after the other...HR were involved more than once and a couple lost their jobs.
All for a shag.
Which you can find anywhere.
Does it SEEM like a good idea? No? Then it's probably not.
As long as the married woman makes the first move, I don't see an issue here. She has much more to lose than you do, so the balance of power is on your side.
I don't understand why a typical company would fire anyone for sleeping with a coworker, married or not. Most companies won't give a darn.
Chances are she's using you as a fling, so go into this with your eyes open. Don't fall in love, don't call her husband. Just enjoy the time you spend together, and when it ends, let it go.
Doesn't sound worth the risk but this stuff happens all the time. I was being pursued by my married boss when I was young and it was bad news. My mom raised me that the Fairer sex was somehow beyond that...Not
The "moral issues" fall primarily on her, since she's the married one who would be cheating. You have no obligation to try to protect someone else's marriage. I'd be far more concerned about the risk to my job and career. It would have to be a fairly low-level job that I didn't care much about in order for me to consider risking it, since you're in the same department and do work together.
The "moral issues" fall primarily on her, since she's the married one who would be cheating. You have no obligation to try to protect someone else's marriage. I'd be far more concerned about the risk to my job and career. It would have to be a fairly low-level job that I didn't care much about in order for me to consider risking it, since you're in the same department and do work together.
Yes, this is technically true but why not hold yourself up to higher standards? Why not have a little respect for yourself? I get that the OP clearly is not concerned with any moral obligation...he seems to only care about his pecker...but for others contemplating this scenario, why not hold yourself up a little higher and say "I choose not to participate in the degradation of someone else's marriage?"
Yes, this is technically true but why not hold yourself up to higher standards? Why not have a little respect for yourself? I get that the OP clearly is not concerned with any moral obligation...he seems to only care about his pecker...but for others contemplating this scenario, why not hold yourself up a little higher and say "I choose not to participate in the degradation of someone else's marriage?"
Agreed. I consider it unethical.
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