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There are actually a lot of things that my husband won't let me do. Although sometimes he has to teach me how and let me do it out of necessity. But he doesn't let me do them because he's afraid I'll hurt myself. And I don't blame him at all!!!
I'm "not allowed" to paint or mow the lawn or rake the leaves because I do it "wrong". Fine by me! lol
I think there should be some sort of equality in time spent on labor, unless one party is ill or one party's work is particularly strenuous. Dh stays home, I work outside the home, and he probably averages 2-3 hrs a day on domestic work, including cooking, dishes, Bill-paying, and minimal cleaning. I would also include in that time calling around obsessively to various companies pricing home improvements we can't afford and don't need. I work a full-time job and spend a minimum of 3 hrs 20 minutes per day commuting, and I put in a fair number of weekend hours working remotely. Although I don't do a whole lot around the house and there are some extenuating circumstances in my husband's favor (a mental heath condition), I think he's not doing enough. I could be wrong, I guess.
I don't understand why men feel that women should have to work all day at the office and then come home and cater, possibly not even getting enough time to sleep,while the male day should be 8 hours of work, 8 hours of sleep, and 8 hours of being catered to and entertained. My Dad had those expectations and was otherwise a decent guy. I guess they see their parents function this way and come to believe that this inequality is normal.
Last edited by forum_browser; 02-11-2013 at 05:10 PM..
Reason: I remembered more stuff hubby does
We were both single and self sufficient for a long time before we got together. That means we are both comfortable and capable of doing any or all of our chores. We tend to gravitate towards the ones we prefer, but we don't have set rules about it. We just do whatever needs to be done.
We both work and don't have kids.
My favorite scenario is for us to decide we're going to clean house and do chores for an hour or so on the weekend. We'll put on some good music and get to work.
We don't clean together. We clean different areas simultaneously. It's nice.
As i have expressed in previous posts, i strongly disagree with this behavior in a world where both men and women are working full-time jobs.
I do not support men sitting on the couch drinking a cold beer while their wife cooks, cleans, does the dishes, bathes the kids, and works her ass off taking care of things around the house. Guys need to be a grown-ass man and do 50% of the work cleaning their houses. Why would a man make his wife clean up after him? If the man really hates housecleaning that much, he should hire a cleaning service. If i ever get married (Fear not, ladies of city-data, i'm still single and women are still being mean to me... i know some of you experienced a moment of pure terror at the thought of a woman being married to me) but if i ever DO by some crazy chance get married, my wife and i will each do 50% of the household chores, and then we will BOTH get some time to relax. I'll sit on the couch rubbing her feet while we both enjoy have a glass of wine.
I want to see how often this goes on in the year 2013, and also I want to give you ladies dealing with this crap a chance to vent about it.
Another reason men arent in a rush to get married. We can do all the things you listed by ourselves for free. If we are going to give up our freedom, risk getting taken to the cleaners, risk our financial freedom, pay for the wedding ring etc that is the least that you can do.
Remember we can cook and clean ourself without signing the marriage contract. If we still have to do household duties why get married when we can do that ourself and keep our freedom.
An article came out a few weeks ago stating the men who do household chores get less sex from their wife
Another reason men arent in a rush to get married. We can do all the things you listed by ourselves for free. If we are going to give up our freedom, risk getting taken to the cleaners, risk our financial freedom, pay for the wedding ring etc that is the least that you can do.
Remember we can cook and clean ourself without signing the marriage contract. If we still have to do household duties why get married when we can do that ourself and keep our freedom.
An article came out a few weeks ago stating the men who do household chores get less sex from their wife
The converse of that, of course, is a woman doesn't need a man to eat nowadays. We can make our own money, thank you. So why should we give up our freedom to become your full time maid and child raiser on top of a job, not to mention the expectation that you will be bopped on demand. That penis does not shoot sparks nor does it give out free chocolates. You can keep that sh*t.
Everybody's giving up something bub. Get over yourself. LOL
The converse of that, of course, is a woman doesn't need a man to eat nowadays. We can make our own money, thank you. So why should we give up our freedom to become your full time maid and child raiser on top of a job, not to mention the expectation that you will be bopped on demand. That penis does not shoot sparks nor does it give out free chocolates. You can keep that sh*t.
Everybody's giving up something bub. Get over yourself. LOL
Ishhhh yall are the ones begging use to get married lol. I'm happy have my own name on my bank account, my own freedom, my own money to spend whenever I want, etc. There is no reason to get married if I still have to do the things I did when I was single
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