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Old 02-11-2013, 07:33 AM
 
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My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years, and I could honestly say that I've never been so happy with someone before. We are getting rather serious, and we both love each other deeply, but I could never stop worrying about her being 6 years older than me...

My girlfriend was a virgin when we met and I was the first guy she's been in bed with. She also never lived on her own before, and is very dependent on her parents. I, on the other hand, was living on my own at the time, and had a lot more experience with relationships before. Thus, despite the fact that she's 6 years my senior, she's much more immature than I am, and looks at least 8 years younger than her age. I'm much more serious and responsible than her and have had a lot more experiences in my life. As a result, I've always felt like the older, more mature one in the relationship, and I've always seen her as someone who is a couple of years younger than myself. We also discussed marriage and children, and she said she is not interested in any of that until maybe 5 years from now, which I am fine with.

Despite this, when we are not seeing each other, I can't help but worry about our age difference. How will she mature when she gets older? Much of my worries stem from my traditional father, who never approved of our relationship since she's older than me. According to him, such relationships are temporary, and I would get bored of being with someone who, down the line, might have less energy than myself. These worries are getting in my head, because we are starting to get really serious, and I am wondering if I should spend the rest of my life with this absolutely gorgeous woman, whom I have a strong connection with, or if I should stop wasting her time and move on...

So my question is, do any of you have any experience with relationships like this one? Is 6 years a noticeable difference? Do I have to worry about anything as time progresses?
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Old 02-11-2013, 07:36 AM
 
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Age isn't your problem here...
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Old 02-11-2013, 07:42 AM
 
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Six years? Don't give it another thought.
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Old 02-11-2013, 07:53 AM
 
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My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years, and I could honestly say that I've never been so happy with someone before. We are getting rather serious, and we both love each other deeply, but I could never stop worrying about her being 6 years older than me...

My girlfriend was a virgin when we met and I was the first guy she's been in bed with. She also never lived on her own before, and is very dependent on her parents. I, on the other hand, was living on my own at the time, and had a lot more experience with relationships before. Thus, despite the fact that she's 6 years my senior, she's much more immature than I am, and looks at least 8 years younger than her age. I'm much more serious and responsible than her and have had a lot more experiences in my life. As a result, I've always felt like the older, more mature one in the relationship, and I've always seen her as someone who is a couple of years younger than myself. We also discussed marriage and children, and she said she is not interested in any of that until maybe 5 years from now, which I am fine with.

Despite this, when we are not seeing each other, I can't help but worry about our age difference. How will she mature when she gets older? Much of my worries stem from my traditional father, who never approved of our relationship since she's older than me. According to him, such relationships are temporary, and I would get bored of being with someone who, down the line, might have less energy than myself. These worries are getting in my head, because we are starting to get really serious, and I am wondering if I should spend the rest of my life with this absolutely gorgeous woman, whom I have a strong connection with, or if I should stop wasting her time and move on...

So my question is, do any of you have any experience with relationships like this one? Is 6 years a noticeable difference? Do I have to worry about anything as time progresses?
Don't be so silly. MY BF is almost 10 years younger than me, and we are together over 3 years now. My ex-husband was 5 years younger. In fact most of my relationships have been with men younger than me. No big deal at all.
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Old 02-11-2013, 08:50 AM
 
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According to him, such relationships are temporary, and I would get bored of being with someone who, down the line, might have less energy

but the same thing would happen to her if you were older...this statement does not make sense
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Old 02-11-2013, 09:13 AM
 
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I'd be more worried about her being so dependent on her parents at that age (small red flag) than the age difference.
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Old 02-11-2013, 09:50 AM
 
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You're uncomfortable with this. End it now.
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Old 02-11-2013, 09:52 AM
 
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It appears you have doubts about your relationship because you're posting here. Why? What else is going on? Six year difference is nothing.
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Old 02-11-2013, 10:09 AM
 
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I am 7 years older than my b/f, You cant tell I am older because I look younger than him
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Old 02-11-2013, 10:12 AM
 
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jesus christ, the problems people create for themselves
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