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Were dating for over a month. He treated me well. It was me who caused our relationship to be in trouble. I think I smothered him. I became paranoid and suspicious. So afraid that I would loose him. I have an abandonment issue. He was the first guy that I opened up to after a big break up from my ex and loosing my dad a year ago. He said he's still interested but thinking were moving a little fast. He told me last week, that he might be falling for me. Friday, I spent the night at his house. Then Saturday, I asked him to hang out and he agreed. but cancelled in the afternoon due to working late. I got anxious and asked him if he's still interested. He said he is interested but were moving fast. Then I pushed more that made him said that hes not looking for something serious. When I asked him if we should stop seeing each other, he didnt respond but said he would talk to me later. It's me who pushed him away. I push and push till a guy walks away. I'm not sure if there's a chance that I could get this guy back.
Were dating for over a month. He treated me well. It was me who caused our relationship to be in trouble. I think I smothered him. I became paranoid and suspicious. So afraid that I would loose him. I have an abandonment issue. He was the first guy that I opened up to after a big break up from my ex and loosing my dad a year ago. He said he's still interested but thinking were moving a little fast. He told me last week, that he might be falling for me. Friday, I spent the night at his house. Then Saturday, I asked him to hang out and he agreed. but cancelled in the afternoon due to working late. I got anxious and asked him if he's still interested. He said he is interested but were moving fast. Then I pushed more that made him said that hes not looking for something serious. When I asked him if we should stop seeing each other, he didnt respond but said he would talk to me later. It's me who pushed him away. I push and push till a guy walks away. I'm not sure if there's a chance that I could get this guy back.
Maybe if you just gave him some space...like email him in a week or something. He is kind of sending mixed signals but last signal is, 'I need some space'.
Were dating for over a month. He treated me well. It was me who caused our relationship to be in trouble. I think I smothered him. I became paranoid and suspicious. So afraid that I would loose him. I have an abandonment issue. He was the first guy that I opened up to after a big break up from my ex and loosing my dad a year ago. He said he's still interested but thinking were moving a little fast. He told me last week, that he might be falling for me. Friday, I spent the night at his house. Then Saturday, I asked him to hang out and he agreed. but cancelled in the afternoon due to working late. I got anxious and asked him if he's still interested. He said he is interested but were moving fast. Then I pushed more that made him said that hes not looking for something serious. When I asked him if we should stop seeing each other, he didnt respond but said he would talk to me later. It's me who pushed him away. I push and push till a guy walks away. I'm not sure if there's a chance that I could get this guy back.
At this point, Just be honest with him about why you were moving so fast and tell him you will agree to take it slow if he is still interested. It sounds like you had some difficult days indeed, But be sure to put in the effort to giving him his space if this continues. This is best anyway-Oftentimes when we jump in immediately we miss an important thing-Getting to know one another. The passion, while not a bad thing takes the place of that completely. Getting to know someone takes time. Good luck with things.
I was never really attached with any guys I've dated. Because this guy treated me so well I became comfortable to open my heart but still watchful. I started to like him more and more which causes the problem. With other guys I was guarded and distant because they showed signs that I would potentially get hurt. But some was still able to cause me pain somehow.
My dad passed away a year ago about the same time my heartless exbf left me. Then, the guys I've dated after turned to be a-holes. I started to be really cautious on who I date. Some complained that I was emotionally unavailable and left. Then my fear of being left started to grow. I learned that moving on is alot easier if im the one leaving them. I started to initiate the break ups or pushing them away for whatever reason. I couldn't keep a relationship.Then this guy came along and I did the exact same thing. I pushed him till he checked out. But this time I realized its hard to move on from him and I want him back.
I was never really attached with any guys I've dated. Because this guy treated me so well I became comfortable to open my heart but still watchful. I started to like him more and more which causes the problem. With other guys I was guarded and distant because they showed signs that I would potentially get hurt. But some was still able to cause me pain somehow.
My dad passed away a year ago about the same time my heartless exbf left me. Then, the guys I've dated after turned to be a-holes. I started to be really cautious on who I date. Some complained that I was emotionally unavailable and left. Then my fear of being left started to grow. I learned that moving on is alot easier if im the one leaving them. I started to initiate the break ups or pushing them away for whatever reason. I couldn't keep a relationship.Then this guy came along and I did the exact same thing. I pushed him till he checked out. But this time I realized its hard to move on from him and I want him back.
It may be too late.
Once a guy decides he's involved with a crazy person (even if the craziness is temporary/explainable) then he's gone and no amount of temptation will bring him back.
You're acting like a high school girl in her first relationship. You should probably seek therapy for your abandonment issues. They will continue the rest of your life until you gain self esteem and confront them head on.
Do that man a favor and leave him alone. His feelings are not mutual or he would be the one chasing you. Get it? You can't be that much of a loser to have to recycle.
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