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OP,when I found out that my boyfriend was looking at porn,I got even.
I went to the bar and had a one night stand.
Why?
To me its the same thing.
Did I tell him? Nope
It felt good that someone wanted me,and not some woman on a porn tape.
Even if for one night,I was the desired object.
I know,you don't feel wanted.
Like your body isn't good enough for him.
Just leave him.
Did you miss the part where she took a hammer to his iPod?
Then again, maybe that is acceptable behavior to someone who goes out and risks pregnancy and an STD by another man because someone she supposedly cared about dared to look at a few pixels.
Guys are visual, do you really expect him to get all excited looking at the same person day after day? That's just not realistic.
Better looking at porn on the computer than getting the real thing from a hotter and younger coworker.
Honestly..... And to look at the brighter side of things it wasn't gay porn.
Some of the girls/women I've seen or been seeing don't care much that I watch. The way it should be!
Just like I don't care if they watch porn or read their romance novels and films.
Sometimes we watch it together.
Okay, so I apologize in advance since I'm sure there are many threads out there related to this but I wanted to share my story and vent at the same time. I would really just appreciate some other opinions. I'm hurt and at a loss at this point. I also apologize for how long this will be, but I'm in desperate need for advice.
Some of the girls/women I've seen or been seeing don't care much that I watch. The way it should be!
Just like I don't care if they watch porn or read their romance novels and films.
Some of us like porn and hate romance novels and films
We often agree on things, but not on this. Actually, I find your posts on this thread offensive. I happen to look at porn now and then, and that most certainly does not render me unfit for a respectful relationship.
In fact, part of respecting someone means that you accept them as they are, and you don't ask them to change to suit your insecurities.
Oh, and if you really believe every man who has ever told you he doesn't look at porn, there's a bridge in Brooklyn I'd like to sell you.
Lilac, it's okay for us to agree to disagree. You looking at porn now and then does NOT render you unfit for a respectful relationship. You must've missed the part in my post to the OP where I said those who look at porn AGAINST their partner's wishesDOES render them UNFIT to be in a respectful relationship. Do you view pornography now and then AGAINST your partner's wishes?! If so, then you DO fit into that parameter. If you view pornography now and then and your partner is OKAY with it; or you're single and do NOT have a partner, then of course you Do NOT fall into that parameter.
As far as the second paragraph of your post, accepting a partner for who they are is ONE thing. BUT, if what their partner "is" degrades the other person in the relationship and makes them feel bad, then the respect is out the window - and the person who finds the porn viewing offensive should absolutely find ANOTHER partner who DOES respect their wishes with regard to this.
As to the last portion of your post, it's kind of sad. It's sad that you truly believe that every man on this planet cannot control their own sexual urges and that every man on this planet DOES view pornography; even though my sources are good men with exceptional moral character traits who have confided in me that they truly do NOT engage in viewing pornography (even though they have in the past) because of how it has ruined their brain and their sexual arousal patterns. If you truly feel that every single man on this earth does use pornography while in a committed relationship against their partner's wishes, then this is YOUR opinion and you're more than entitled to believe that. But realize, that even though you believe this to be true of all men, it does NOT mean it is so.
Just a question I'm new at this site... Can I post a website that isn't selling anything... Relationship advice
Yeah just need to site it. Let the author get credit for it.
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..as long as it isn't an addiction relax
You looking at porn now and then does NOT render you unfit for a respectful relationship. You must've missed the part in my post to the OP where I said those who look at porn AGAINST their partner's wishes DOES render them UNFIT to be in a respectful relationship. Do you view pornography now and then AGAINST your partner's wishes?! If so, then you DO fit into that parameter. If you view pornography now and then and your partner is OKAY with it; or you're single and do NOT have a partner, then of course you Do NOT fall into that parameter. 