Internet dating - Relaxing my standards? (guys, average, meaning, looking)
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That's what I was thinking. 5'10 and 185 in shape would require weight lifting to get that heavy for someone of medium build.
I think if you're in you're 20's you are probably correct. But in your 40's I don't think 185 is such an awful weight to be. It is probably right where you want or need to be.
OP, not to dogpile, but I have to agree that the fatties are your league. I'm 5'10, and I looked chunky at 185. You'd start looking slim at 170 or so... so, you're carrying around about 45 extra lbs. I say give a fattie a chance.
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Originally Posted by mkarch
That's what I was thinking. 5'10 and 185 in shape would require weight lifting to get that heavy for someone of medium build.
Yup...agree.
My husband is 5'10" and weighs about 175 but he is very toned and fit with a lot of muscle mass. He works out everyday and plays hockey a few times a week. He's never really gained upwards of 178 but if he takes a hiatus from working out (had to do that due to injury not that long ago) he starts looking chubby at his weight.
I find it amusing that the OP can't see that he is the pot calling the kettle black. He's calling women "fatties", meanwhile he weighs in at 40-45lbs overweight
Yes, you are fat. You are much larger than my husband and he is the same height as you. You aren't much older than he is either, not that it makes a huge difference.
Yes, you are fat. You are much larger than my husband and he is the same height as you. You aren't much older than he is either, not that it makes a huge difference.
Well, then we have to check back with you guys in 90 days then. LOL
Like people said, you're a fattie too. You shouldn't expect a better looking woman unless you have something else to offer that she doesn't. Hence it would become a mutually beneficial relationship. You are looking for something that you feel entitled to. You as a average man are not entitled to an above average looking woman in this modern society. Sorry.
Yes, the OP is calling the kettle black. I will add though, that females online are also a B team in aggregate, meaning they tend to be overweight too, and they tend to prefer to message guys who are physically at an entirely different fitness level than they are.
Online dating is concessionary by design. Work, school and social circles. Those are the three pillars of mainstream dating. Anything outside that is concessionary. Life ain't fair, but it is a choice.
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