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Old 02-19-2013, 07:06 PM
 
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So I just had a first date with a girl I met on POF last night. It was about a two hour first date that I thought went pretty well (especially considering some of the women I've met online). Anyways, towards the end of the night she went to get in a cab, we hugged, and in a very passing and quick way she said, "This was great. Hopefully see you soon." Now I didn't know if she was trying to just get in the cab as quick as possible or if she really meant it.

Anyways, I sent a text this afternoon saying, "Hey, just wanted to say I had a great time meeting you last night and we should definitely get together again if you're up for it. Hope you're Tuesday is going well." About an hour later I get a response (she normally takes a while to respond), "Hey. Super busy at work. How's you're Tuesday going?"

So firstly I was kind of bummed I didn't get a response to my implication, but I responded with how my Tuesday was going, and then asked another casual question (relating to something we discussed last night). I haven't heard anything since then.

Do you think I should just let this go, or should I maybe shoot her another text tomorrow trying again? Appreciate any help!
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Old 02-19-2013, 07:10 PM
 
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Do what you want, but I generally wait to receive a response before sending another text. You could avoid this uncertainty by picking up the phone and calling her.
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Old 02-19-2013, 07:10 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Try again tomorrow, and send her a "hey, wanta do something this weekend?" The response you get to that (if any) should tell you something.
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Old 02-19-2013, 07:13 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Try again tomorrow, and send her a "hey, wanta do something this weekend?" The response you get to that (if any) should tell you something.
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Old 02-19-2013, 07:16 PM
 
Location: Moreno Valley, Ca
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Try again tomorrow, and send her a "hey, wanta do something this weekend?" The response you get to that (if any) should tell you something.

This^^^^
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Old 02-19-2013, 09:00 PM
 
Location: North of 60
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So, how is you are Tuesday going?
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Old 02-19-2013, 09:12 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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So I just had a first date with a girl I met on POF last night. It was about a two hour first date that I thought went pretty well (especially considering some of the women I've met online). Anyways, towards the end of the night she went to get in a cab, we hugged, and in a very passing and quick way she said, "This was great. Hopefully see you soon." Now I didn't know if she was trying to just get in the cab as quick as possible or if she really meant it.

Anyways, I sent a text this afternoon saying, "Hey, just wanted to say I had a great time meeting you last night and we should definitely get together again if you're up for it. Hope you're Tuesday is going well." About an hour later I get a response (she normally takes a while to respond), "Hey. Super busy at work. How's you're Tuesday going?"

So firstly I was kind of bummed I didn't get a response to my implication, but I responded with how my Tuesday was going, and then asked another casual question (relating to something we discussed last night). I haven't heard anything since then.

Do you think I should just let this go, or should I maybe shoot her another text tomorrow trying again? Appreciate any help!
Texting is for short, uncomplicated exchanges. You're not going to get comprehensive responses with texting. It may take a while for you to get the answer you're looking for if you text multiple statements. This has worked best for me but, of course, it could just be me.

Anyway, go ahead and text her again. But be succint and direct with your question.

[propose a specific action: "Let's do ______ this Friday."]
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Old 02-19-2013, 09:21 PM
 
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So she said she was super busy at work, which implied she wasn't going to have time to talk. So you sent her another text and she predictably didn't answer. And now you are freaking out just a little bit? Because shes behaving in a predictble manner? Just calm down! LOL

Text her tomorrow after work.
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Old 02-19-2013, 09:28 PM
 
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Oh my god. Stop being prissy and coy. If you want to see her again ask her on another date!

("How's your Tuesday going?" Really? Good lord.)
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Old 02-19-2013, 09:40 PM
 
Location: North of 60
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She's not interested, honestly. If she were, she would have been excited to hear from you and definitely would have texted you back. She may keep you on the back burner if she has another date or two lined up, but you're not first priority.
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