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Old 02-21-2013, 07:02 AM
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I've been seeing this guy only for 2 weeks..we already had sex on our third date. Since we don't know eachother much, I think it's early for either of us to bring up relationship stuff..
He has very high sex drive,,he just loves it with me lol Idk maybe that's why I got the impression that he just wants to keep it casual. At the end of our fourth date, I told him I cant do this because he always texts me dirty and seems like he doesn't give a **** about me unless it's sex.
Then he told me I'm worrying too much.
Eversince he texts me how's my day going and what am i upto stuff..which is so weird haha
I thought I'm just a booty call type, but I like hanging out with him sex is so great nd I don't really look for something serious now, so figured just go along with it but not get too attatched.
But then when we meet up it's not only sex(half time it is lol), he gets me coffee or something and we talk awhile, he asks me stuff about me, asks my past relationships and sexual relationships, he always have this thought that I'm dating many guys besides him..which I'm not and he never listens, he suggested me to change my number so other guys won't bother me, then last night he asked me few times if I missed him, first I said no lol when he asked me second I asked him back and he said he did which was really surprise so I was Awww and he was like shutup lol(when he asked he didn't refer it to 'sex') after sex, he cuddled little, helped me putting on clothes lol he hooked up bra put shoes on me stuff..
he compliments me inside outside bed, we text few times a day everyday..he doesnt only call me when he wants it.
So it's like I tried to keep it cool then now I'm confused..
He's pretty shy guy, he's not the guy who would say all the sweet things.. he's more like doesn't express much of himself.
I know if I ask him if im his booty call or what our relationship goes, he will say im not his booty and just let it flow why would I think so much lol
so I'm asking here.. do you think guys can be this nice to their booties..
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Old 02-21-2013, 11:58 AM
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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It sounds like he thinks more of you than YOU do.
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Old 02-21-2013, 11:59 AM
Location: USA
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Sounds like a regular with a new name
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Old 02-21-2013, 12:05 PM
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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Originally Posted by LS Jaun View Post
Sounds like a regular with a new name

People are weird as ****.
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Old 02-21-2013, 01:04 PM
Location: Austin, Texas
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So its too early to bring up relationship stuff but you already let him inside you?

Why the hell does it feel like I'm the last person on earth that doesn't jump into bed with someone without spending decent amount of time with that person.
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Old 02-21-2013, 01:12 PM
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This is sooooo out of touch with what I was used to.

I mean you can really just hop in the sack and not even buy dinner?! Just coffee?!

Man the world sure has changed!!!
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Old 02-21-2013, 01:12 PM
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When the sex is really good, guys can get attached quickly.
And, depending on how much dating he had before you, if it has been a while for him, that may affect things also.

It does sound like you have self esteem issues or low confidence.

Maybe he DOES like you. He treats you well, and yet you are confused ?
Why does it seem like when there is no chaos in relationships, people MUST dig to find something, ANYTHING wrong. This is a classic example to why datin is so much more difficult than it should be.
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Old 02-21-2013, 01:28 PM
Location: Western Colorado
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Sex is great, he's gotten attached to you, guys are that simple. It's up to you to throw up some boundaries, and make those clear to him.
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Old 02-21-2013, 02:32 PM
Location: NY
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At this point he likes you, but it is because you are willing to have sex. He may not fully understand or realize that, but it is why.

Of course, that doesn't mean more won't develop in time, but be careful that the two of you, if you try to build a relationship, base it on things other than sex. Otherwise, disaster probably looms.
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Old 02-22-2013, 09:58 PM
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Yes, they can be that nice to their eff buddies, especially if they don't want to let on that they only see you as that. Or they can get caught up in the moment and want to do nice things for you in return for the sex. It's only been 2 weeks, so it's hard to determine what the deal is. I guess you just have to go with the flow for now. Why jump in the bed with someone so quickly if you can't do so without wondering almost immediately what you guys are to each other?
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