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you can actually, do him the best favor of his life...tell him you will date him,, but you get to pick the activity- go jogging or running..
Just an update here:
I decided to bite the bullet and give my guy a chance. It's amazing what 5 years, some time together, and, and a healthy motivation to lose weight/be healthy will do. We're going strong together as a couple, and we're exercising together .
Unless you have a low sex drive or no sex drive, I don't see how people do this.
I wonder what happens when couples get older. As everyone ages, they become less attractive. Is everyone who demanded that instant spark and "oh my god, so-and-so is so hot I must date them!" divorcing their less attractive older s/o and upgrading after 10-20 years? Are they 'blinded by love?' I doubt it... and I think this phenonmenom of demanding lightning in a bottle is why the divorce rate is so high. The reality is that physical appearance trumps all.
All but one of my relationships required a build up of interest from the person I dated. I'm not what is considered attractive. Hence, the average... The one relationship I had that didn't have a slow getting to know her (3-ish months) was the worst relationship I had. So much for the instant attraction theory IMO. but, that is just IMO.
I can date someone I'm not physically attracted to if I'm emotionally and intellectually attracted to him I'm fine, However I can not date anyone I'm attracted to physically without that emotional connection it doesn't work for me.
If you want to give it a shot I say go for it
What I posted before still stands for me 100%.........Good luck with your new relationship
I wonder what happens when couples get older. As everyone ages, they become less attractive. Is everyone who demanded that instant spark and "oh my god, so-and-so is so hot I must date them!" divorcing their less attractive older s/o and upgrading after 10-20 years? Are they 'blinded by love?' I doubt it... and I think this phenonmenom of demanding lightning in a bottle is why the divorce rate is so high. The reality is that physical appearance trumps all.
All but one of my relationships required a build up of interest from the person I dated. I'm not what is considered attractive. Hence, the average... The one relationship I had that didn't have a slow getting to know her (3-ish months) was the worst relationship I had. So much for the instant attraction theory IMO. but, that is just IMO.
I bet you were physically attracted to them though.
As for couples getting older, I think they've developed an emotional connection as well as their physical connection, and this is powerful and sustaining. More often than not, couples lose their emotional connection before their physical connection. Both are needed for a relationship to be happy and sustained indefinitely.
I bet you were physically attracted to them though.
As for couples getting older, I think they've developed an emotional connection as well as their physical connection, and this is powerful and sustaining. More often than not, couples lose their emotional connection before their physical connection. Both are needed for a relationship to be happy and sustained indefinitely.
Bolded: Initially, for about half of them, not exactly. Not that they were unattractive, but some of them have absolutely been considered average looking at best. But Over time I came to know them, and we developed a mutual interest in each other due to...... personality and common interests.
Basically, all but two of my relationships began as friends.
Bolded: Initially, for about half of them, not exactly. Not that they were unattractive, but some of them have absolutely been considered average looking at best. But Over time I came to know them, and we developed a mutual interest in each other due to...... personality and common interests.
Basically, all but two of my relationships began as friends.
There's nothing wrong with average. Average means that they are physically attractive to some degree. Being somewhat physically attracted to someone is different than not being physically attracted to them at all.
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