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So short story I go out with this dude 7 times. He was clearly more interested. He texted, double texted, was very nice etc. Not pushing anything out of the norm. Paid for every date and insisted he pays. And then nothing. After that, he just vanished.
Now I disclosed I am moving out of state at date 3 so that should not be a surprise or whatever. I was looking for something casual but not just hooking up at his place. And just as I was finally ready to have sex he decided to ghost me. Maybe he was looking for sex and ended up with someone who decided to go for it so there is no incentive? Still, have 7 dates and give up? I suppose he maybe didn't get the hint I was ready.
I go online to see is this a thing and apparently, it is. Ghosting is not just after 1 or 2 dates. It can happen anytime. Some say even after a whole year. Online stories might be the worst of the worst but this is so disheartening. Is it really that hard to break it off with someone? If you invested time and money in that person why can't you have the courtesy to at least make up some excuses to end things?
I feel like dating is a contest who can care less and we should assume they will vanish and plan accordingly. I literally have to date more than one person since at least one will do this stuff.
Is this really a current state of dating? Am I exaggerating? Where you ghosted after more than 5 dates?
Could be. But it also be that you're just dating crappy people. When it comes to dating, you have to go through a lot of wrongs before you meet the right person. Or at least, that's what they say. Someone I was a close to disappeared on me after a few years and several friendships I had have faded as well. So I think part of it is natural but it doesn't make it easy to deal with. I do think in the age of online dating it does make people more quick to toss someone aside as opposed to taking their time. However, I don't think there is THAT much of a difference. The key is to find people are like you and learn how to weed out the ones who aren't
I feel like dating is a contest who can care less and we should assume they will vanish and plan accordingly. I literally have to date more than one person since at least one will do this stuff.
Is this really a current state of dating? Am I exaggerating? Where you ghosted after more than 5 dates?
You assumed he would vanish and planned accordingly, then he vanished and you’re r surprised? Maybe he had the same plan, date more than one, and just ghosted you before you could ghost him after 7 dates w/o sex.
IDK, he probably got the same: Who Cares? Vibe from you that I’m getting from reading the story.
“I’m probably moving.” “”I’m hinting at sex.”
Maybe he didn’t think you’d care if he showed up any more or not. Who knows, no one cares enough to ask him I guess. You’ll have to try that other guy you have waiting “just in case” has happened.
Sounds like a nice guy and you had a good time... you’re moving away and had a clean break so what is the problem OP?
The problem is that he said he would like to see me, he even said what day works.
I did mention my possible trip to another state I am moving so maybe he finally realized I really am moving. From my past experiences when men check out after date 2 or 3 if sex is what they are after and it's not happening. Guys who invested 7 dates generally wanted to get something out of it.
I mean I know it is probably not the best to assume the worst but if we keep our hopes up and believe in people but if they keep disappointing me that would get old fast. I don't want to be one of those jaded women.
You assumed he would vanish and planned accordingly, then he vanished and you’re r surprised? Maybe he had the same plan, date more than one, and just ghosted you before you could ghost him after 7 dates w/o sex.
IDK, he probably got the same: Who Cares? Vibe from you that I’m getting from reading the story.
“I’m probably moving.” “”I’m hinting at sex.”
Maybe he didn’t think you’d care if he showed up any more or not. Who knows, no one cares enough to ask him I guess. You’ll have to try that other guy you have waiting “just in case” has happened.
But I don't ghost people, didn't even think ghosting after that many dates is a thing or that people act that cowardly. I would at least sent a text saying why I am no longer interested. Heck, I would say I already moved or something but would not just check out.
But I don't ghost people, didn't even think ghosting after that many dates is a thing or that people act that cowardly. I would at least sent a text saying why I am no longer interested. Heck, I would say I already moved or something but would not just check out.
Ask him?
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Who knows, no one cares enough to ask him I guess. You’ll have to try that other guy you have waiting “just in case” has happened.
