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Old 02-26-2013, 07:13 AM
 
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This is a question a female friend of mine wants my opinion on........thought I would get some unbiased answers......

My soon to be ex husband just served me with papers for spousal support and I want to know if I will be liable to pay? Here's the run down...........moved to VA from NY 7 years, met a man down there that I thought I loved, dated for a year then got married. Been married for 5 years now but due to him having a problem with keeping his hands to himself filed for divorce. The story on him is........he's lazy and doesn't want to work.........been collecting disability since I've met him and didn't contribute anything financially. We have no kids together and I got the mortgage before I met him so his name isn't on anything in the home. I have my bank accounts and he has none...........he basically has nothing going on and doesn't want to do anything but sit home and smoke cigarretes. We are currently in the middle of a divorce and he served me with spousal support papers stating he needs $550 a month in support...........now I only make $1600.00 per month and $480.00 of that pays for the morgage minus all my other debt/bills. My question is.......since we have no kids together, beeen married for 5 years, he contributed nothing, never had to give up a career to support mine and the fact I dont make alot of income anyway and his name isn't on anything.............can he get spousal support and half of what I own?
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Old 02-26-2013, 07:14 AM
 
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She's based out of VA......dont know VA laws
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Old 02-26-2013, 07:15 AM
 
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We can't answer that. I'm sure you'll get 50 opinions on it, but what we think doesn't matter. She should have a consultation with a lawyer to know what her legal rights are.
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Old 02-26-2013, 07:15 AM
 
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Ouch. No prenup? He's been collecting disability since the day she met him and she didn't think a prenup was in order??

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Old 02-26-2013, 07:23 AM
 
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Because of his disability, he's got a leg to stand on. Alimony/Maintenance/Spousal Support in a Virginia Divorce

It'll be up to your lawyers to fight out. A judge is liable to do anything, but my guess is you'll have to buy him out of half the house.
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Old 02-26-2013, 07:23 AM
 
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I'm not sure. But if the situation was the reverse, you would definitely be paying money to the girl.
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Old 02-26-2013, 07:26 AM
 
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You may or may not be held liable for some kind of support. Depends on a number of factors, and particulars of Va. law.

Time to get a lawyer. He can file and demand any number of things from you, including huge support payments. Pettitioning for it doesn't make him entitled. You basically will have to fight it out in court, or come to some sort of settlement.
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Old 02-26-2013, 07:30 AM
 
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Because of his disability, he's got a leg to stand on. Alimony/Maintenance/Spousal Support in a Virginia Divorce

It'll be up to your lawyers to fight out. A judge is liable to do anything, but my guess is you'll have to buy him out of half the house.
Half the house? She had the house 2 years prior........the didnt buy into the house together........his name isn't even on the deed. She's 50 and he's 52. From what I've read he doesn't have a leg to stand on.........no kids involved, she doesn't earn alot of money and he never gave up a career to support hers where her income grew.........I just don't see it.
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Old 02-26-2013, 07:32 AM
 
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I think it's insane to pay spousal support when there are no children involved-independent of gender.
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Old 02-26-2013, 07:32 AM
 
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I think income and children play I bigger factor in getting alimony. No kids and $26k a year.........can't see it unless she's ordered to pay $50 a month.
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