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Old 03-02-2013, 08:33 PM
 
Location: Atlanta & NYC
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Hello ladies,

A minute ago I was talking to my co worker who's a good friend about how my girlfriend made a comment today that I always have a way of making people smile and brightening up their day. This sparked a discussion somehow about how he thinks my girlfriend is seeing me more as a friend than a boyfriend despite the fact that we've been dating for 6 months now.

I'm not worried that she'll break up with me, but it definitely is a concept I'm curious about. Have any of you broken up with your boyfriend who you were dating for a decent amount of time because you felt they'd really be better suited as a friend? And I don't mean that junk where you have to break up with the poor guy and you know he'll take it like 30 kicks to the nuts so you say something like "I think we'd be better friends" just to minimize his tears.

Perhaps this will be a decent conversation or perhaps it'll put many of you to sleep.
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Old 03-02-2013, 08:38 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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I've broken up with a few girlfriends because we decided we'd be better as friends.

For the most part, we're all still friends.
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Old 03-02-2013, 09:18 PM
 
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Hello ladies,

A minute ago I was talking to my co worker who's a good friend about how my girlfriend made a comment today that I always have a way of making people smile and brightening up their day. This sparked a discussion somehow about how he thinks my girlfriend is seeing me more as a friend than a boyfriend despite the fact that we've been dating for 6 months now.

I'm not worried that she'll break up with me, but it definitely is a concept I'm curious about. Have any of you broken up with your boyfriend who you were dating for a decent amount of time because you felt they'd really be better suited as a friend? And I don't mean that junk where you have to break up with the poor guy and you know he'll take it like 30 kicks to the nuts so you say something like "I think we'd be better friends" just to minimize his tears.

Perhaps this will be a decent conversation or perhaps it'll put many of you to sleep.
Breaking up with a guy just because he would make a better friend? No.

I've broken up with guys who ended up being better friends, yes, but I left them for other reasons.
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Old 03-02-2013, 09:51 PM
 
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Hello ladies,

A minute ago I was talking to my co worker who's a good friend about how my girlfriend made a comment today that I always have a way of making people smile and brightening up their day. This sparked a discussion somehow about how he thinks my girlfriend is seeing me more as a friend than a boyfriend despite the fact that we've been dating for 6 months now.

I'm not worried that she'll break up with me, but it definitely is a concept I'm curious about. Have any of you broken up with your boyfriend who you were dating for a decent amount of time because you felt they'd really be better suited as a friend? And I don't mean that junk where you have to break up with the poor guy and you know he'll take it like 30 kicks to the nuts so you say something like "I think we'd be better friends" just to minimize his tears.

Perhaps this will be a decent conversation or perhaps it'll put many of you to sleep.
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Old 03-02-2013, 10:46 PM
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Location: Portland, OR
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Well generally if someone breaks up with someone for that reason, the dual reason is that they didn't have romantic feelings for the person. It's not *just* because someone thinks that their SO is better suited as a friend.
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Old 03-02-2013, 10:53 PM
 
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I broke up with someone because I realize I always saw them as a friend, just couldn't get past that stage and into the romantic stage. But my last boyfriend was also a friend too, even though I saw him romantically.

Here's a tricky one. This guy I dated seems to just see me as a friend even though he also found me attractive. Guess I wasn't his type. More to romance than physical attraction? Then what about when you're just friends with someone because you weren't physically attracted to them?
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Old 03-03-2013, 12:22 AM
 
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90% of guys will still have sex with a girl that they have no romantic interest in if they find them attractive.
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Old 03-03-2013, 03:34 PM
 
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What defines romantic interest then?
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Old 03-03-2013, 04:14 PM
 
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Yes. I dated a wonderful guy but we had too many differences to really work as a couple. We still chat periodically and he is a Facebook friend.
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Old 03-05-2013, 11:37 AM
 
Location: U.S.A.
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I'm kind of in a situation like that...Got together w/ someone who was already a friend. There were a couple sparks in the beginning, but now, not so much....He, on the other hand, wants to marry me. FML lol
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