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Oh wow. OP you are not her BF anymore. Dunno why you still cling on to her. When my SO call me by someone's name, that right there is good indicator - we are sooo over.. Why can't you do the same? It seems to me you're still hoping she isn't cheating but looks to me she already is in a relationship with the douchebag. Dump her before she does.
I think she was intentionally doing those things so you can dump her, it seems you both are too coward to end things with each other. She did the coward way by cheating on you and NOT hiding it. And STILL you cling on. WOW.
OP, this is a mess. The guy is completely disrespecting you. And you gf is letting him. She should have made it clear to the guy that no relationship is possible a long time ago. I see this ending very bad for you. Your gf seems to be capable of being 'wooed' away from you.
If I were you, I would give an ultimatum at this point. Sorry, but 3 strikes and your out honey. And I really hate ultimatums, but if she doesn't tell this guy to stop texting, and "it's over" to the other guy, I would walk.
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Originally Posted by Mikala43
The problem is she wasn't open and honest from the start...... so understandably you are now suspicious.
I think you need to sit down with her and talk about what her actions have caused, and what will be needed to regain trust. You also need to work out in your own head what you will and will not tolerate.
Details added too all of you who think I am a caveman.
So, girlfriend went to work today (she does weekdays in a day job and one night at a restaurant)
I emailed her and the email bounced back. Texted her, and the only thing she mentioned was that her email address has changed. I found out (without asking) what the new address was (just guessed it) and it returned with:
I am OOO until tomorrow.
Called the office - she wasnt at work. Did not tell me (not that she has to report but she always does)
Called her - and she wont pick up the phone.
Texted her (didnt tell her I knew) and she only texted back she was too busy to text back or call
Could be playing up,
but
Still.
You're going down in flames, it's time to punch out.
It sucks, as I have been in your shoes, but it's time to bail.
I am so sorry tzzt123. You'll find someone else who will not play games with you - don't worry. There's more fish in the sea. Keep your heart open so another lady can fill it with her love. Good luck.
Please stop the emailing, texting, phone calls. You are ONLY feeding her ego. If she loves you, she knows how to respect you. That is all I have to say.
Go have some fun with your guy friends. Like somebody said, there are plent of fish in the sea. Next time, be careful choosing. Take it as lesson learned, move on!
Also said I would not blame or make decisions or attack, but that there were issues on my mind, and i that its very hard if i have to keep guessing specially after i caught her.
answer:
dont have to prove myself
you have issues sort them out yourself
massive defense mechanisms up
Also said I would not blame or make decisions or attack, but that there were issues on my mind, and i that its very hard if i have to keep guessing specially after i caught her.
answer: dont have to prove myself
you have issues sort them out yourself
massive defense mechanisms up
Now you know what she thinks, and feels, about you. I'm sorry about that, but better to find out now than to drag it out.
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First time: She asked me to text back someone while she was driving
Second time: She asked me to read a text for her
Third / fourth : Getting suspicious.
wtf, she asks you to read her texts while she has incoming flirt texts from some other dude?
i'd bail. it sounds too fishy
at the very least, snoop her phone
best case she is too meek to tell the guy to eff off. worse case she loves the attention. worst case...
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