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Old 03-09-2013, 01:36 PM
 
Location: Austin
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My dad and sister can't seem to be alone. I don't get it.
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Old 03-09-2013, 01:45 PM
 
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*puts on a top hate and a monocle*

One does not have time for such affairs.
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Old 03-09-2013, 02:13 PM
 
Location: in your dreams
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*puts on a top hate and a monocle*

One does not have time for such affairs.
Don't be hatin', lol
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Old 03-10-2013, 06:02 PM
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Location: Tall Building down by the river
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Is an attractive ever really without options? The answer is NO
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Old 03-13-2013, 08:07 PM
 
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I've had a couple female friends of mine seemingly take pride when they tell me that "they never stay single for long," and in the case of one woman has never gone more than a month of being single since High School. By this, I don't mean that they stay with the same guy for years and years, but rather that they bounce from relationship to relationship with little time in between. I can't understand why this is something that some women take pride in. Are they trying to present themselves as so attractive that they can get a man whenever they want? Because to me, it's a HUGE turnoff. From my perspective, a woman like that is someone who always NEEDS to have a guy, and is emits a huge aura of insecurity. I want a woman who would be just as fine without me as she would be with me, because a secure woman who is confident is extremely hot.

Besides, not surprisingly, these ladies always seem to have the most drama-filled breakups. Either they complain nonstop about the latest ex, or they will engage in extreme passive aggressive mode via facebook statuses. Not cool.

Anybody else highly turned off by women (or men) who don't stay single for long?
When I was 16, I had a friend who was 14 but way more experienced than I was. She had already gone through 7 boyfriends.

She asked me how come I didn't have a boyfriend. "You're not bad looking. How come you're not dating anyone?"

I was too surprised to answer then but it made me think.

I had a boyfriend at 15 and he was my crush and a heartthrob in the neighborhood (still couldn't believe he asked me out) but I ended it bec I felt I wasnt ready to be physically intimate (he was in college). He respected me when I would turn him down, but I knew he was getting impatient. I felt pressured somehow.

A few guys asked me out, but coming from a conservative family with a strict father, I was afraid to just date anyone. But that didn't matter because girls like my friend only saw that poor little me didn't have anyone.

This friend of mine was never without someone. She sounds like your friend. They probably think that being alone is pathetic because that's how they see girls who are.
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Old 03-13-2013, 10:07 PM
 
Location: Bronx
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I've had a couple female friends of mine seemingly take pride when they tell me that "they never stay single for long," and in the case of one woman has never gone more than a month of being single since High School. By this, I don't mean that they stay with the same guy for years and years, but rather that they bounce from relationship to relationship with little time in between. I can't understand why this is something that some women take pride in. Are they trying to present themselves as so attractive that they can get a man whenever they want? Because to me, it's a HUGE turnoff. From my perspective, a woman like that is someone who always NEEDS to have a guy, and is emits a huge aura of insecurity. I want a woman who would be just as fine without me as she would be with me, because a secure woman who is confident is extremely hot.

Besides, not surprisingly, these ladies always seem to have the most drama-filled breakups. Either they complain nonstop about the latest ex, or they will engage in extreme passive aggressive mode via facebook statuses. Not cool.

Anybody else highly turned off by women (or men) who don't stay single for long?
It sounds like she has a deck of friend zone guys to pick from.
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Old 03-15-2013, 06:37 AM
 
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There ARE some women who never stay single for long tho. They just have so many options and so many guys Competeting for them
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Old 03-28-2014, 04:00 PM
 
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Sometimes that's just the way it happens. I AM one of those girls who's never single for long, and it's not because I'm afraid of being single or think I have no worth if I don't have a boyfriend. I actually ENJOY single life, just as much as I enjoy life in a relationship. My relationships are reasonably long, and I've never had a "dramatic" breakup. I just like guys, and guys like me. And if I like a guy, and I'm single, and he asks me out, why shouldn't I go out with him? Because people might think bad things about me for "guy hopping"? No, thanks--who I date is MY business, not theirs. I'm confident enough to not let it bother me.
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Old 03-28-2014, 04:37 PM
 
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.......... Wrong post
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Old 03-28-2014, 08:52 PM
 
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For me, it's partly emotional (or lack thereof)- some people just don't get over breakups as other people. If a relationship is over, give me a few days and I'm good. I'm usually the one who wants the breakup- I'm not going to lead a guy on if I know that he's not the one. And it's parly out of boredom. I've moved a few times in the last few years, and honestly, it's easier to meet guys to hang out with vs. finding some girls to.

Also, some people deep down hope to find "the one," and one way of trying to find that person is by dating a lot.

I agree with PassTheChocolate- sometimes you're kind of stuck in a relationship even though you have already decided that the person isn't for you.
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