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Old 03-08-2013, 09:38 AM
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I've had a couple female friends of mine seemingly take pride when they tell me that "they never stay single for long," and in the case of one woman has never gone more than a month of being single since High School. By this, I don't mean that they stay with the same guy for years and years, but rather that they bounce from relationship to relationship with little time in between. I can't understand why this is something that some women take pride in. Are they trying to present themselves as so attractive that they can get a man whenever they want? Because to me, it's a HUGE turnoff. From my perspective, a woman like that is someone who always NEEDS to have a guy, and is emits a huge aura of insecurity. I want a woman who would be just as fine without me as she would be with me, because a secure woman who is confident is extremely hot.

Besides, not surprisingly, these ladies always seem to have the most drama-filled breakups. Either they complain nonstop about the latest ex, or they will engage in extreme passive aggressive mode via facebook statuses. Not cool.

Anybody else highly turned off by women (or men) who don't stay single for long?
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Old 03-08-2013, 09:43 AM
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typical character disordered statement that reveals no details as to why they never stay single for long, all generalized, all superficial
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Old 03-08-2013, 09:55 AM
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Some people are terrified to be alone. I think it is really that simple.
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Old 03-08-2013, 09:55 AM
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I don't like it either, as it sends the message of co-dependency. Unfortunately, most of the woman I know bounce from relationship to relationship, rarely staying single but for brief moments. Seems the norm. Can't say I know many that brag about it or wear it as a badge of honor as you speak of. Either way, it's a bad sign. But they get hit on so much, and essentially have a line of suitors waiting for their lastest relationship to end that it makes it easy for them to fall into this trap even if it's not something they seek to do.
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Old 03-08-2013, 10:04 AM
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Originally Posted by strawberrykiki View Post
Some people are terrified to be alone. I think it is really that simple.
This. Two examples:

1) My late business partner's wife. He died after a sudden two-week illness, leaving her absolutely devastated. He had not been buried more than three weeks before a mutual acquaintance of ours invited her to lunch. She asked me what I thought, to which I replied, "Oh, Julia. What could it hurt?" Boy, that's the worst advice I've ever given.

She goes to lunch with him. Then dinner. Then were serious inside of three or four weeks, which totally confused her four-year-old daughter. I mean, she just practically threw herself into the relationship. When he moved, she moved with him. Finally two years later, she had 'the talk' with him, asking where the relationship was going. His answer? "Nowhere. I don't want to raise your daughter."

So what happens next? She moves back to town, six-year-old in tow. Two months later, she visits her grandparents in Minnesota and meets this nice single guy next door who ran all kinds of errands for them, such as picking up groceries, mowing the lawn, etc. So they spend that entire week talking to each other and -- voila -- she's moving to Minnesota to marry the guy.

The marriage lasts six months. So now, she's stuck in Duluth, Minnesota, the ass-end of the planet. "I just have never been without a boyfriend or a husband" was her explanation for all this.

2) My wife's best friend's daughter. Her mother has hammered into her the idea that she has no value without a boyfriend. So this incredibly beautiful and smart girl put up with all kinds of abuse and bad behavior in order to stay in a relationship. Just so sad.
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Old 03-08-2013, 10:11 AM
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A lot women wrap their entire self-worth and perception of themselves up in their ability to obtain a man or a relationship.

It's a sad sad state of affairs.
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Old 03-08-2013, 10:12 AM
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who cares, they probably have incredibly low self esteem
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Old 03-08-2013, 10:28 AM
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HUGE turn off.
I know some women like this. They are VERY proud of it. They feel they have value cause men want to be with them.
One time, a woman I was dating bragged to me about how diserable she was. It literally made me sick to my stomach, and it permanantly changed the way I looked at her. And it wasn't in a positive way.
On top of it, it was more of a this is how desirable I am, so give me attention or else...
If any woman ever brags about relationship (bed) hopping, I will break up within 24-48 hours with her. period.
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Old 03-08-2013, 10:32 AM
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I find people who don't mind being single much more attractive.
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Old 03-08-2013, 10:43 AM
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It means they have no standards.
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