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they dont orgasm but they find the act of penetration pleasureable. I dont get any pleasure out of penetration
why when I say I dont feel anything during penetration ppl automatically think I'm referring to the inability to orgasm? I'm saying I don't enjoy the act in itself. why is that so hard to understand?? most women may not orgasm but penetration feels good to them
I'm trying to think of way to explain this in PG-13 terms, but I think you may be expecting the wrong thing out of penetration, in that it sounds like you expect to be moved to the heights of bliss just by penetration alone, which I don't think is common for a lot of women. It's part of the whole sensual experience of sex, but it's not where the magic happens. If you're able to get pleasure by yourself, maybe you need to use your hand or change positions (or sleep with guys who care about getting you off) in order to get the most out of sex.
the only way i can know if therapy will work is if I am in a sexually active relationship. i'm not going to put my life on hold and then realize after years of therapy that i still have the same problem. besides, therapy is not going to make me feel anything during penetration. its just not. and its too expensive and i cannot afford it.
Apparently therapy is the new term for what used to be known as 'magic.' I don't know if therapy will help you or not but it is something to TRY.....Well I tried it and it did nothing for me and as of late is doing more of the same. If it doesn't work this is what people will tell you: "You didn't try hard enough," "you didn't really beleive in the therapy process," etc. etc.
Look into places where the therapists are residents or grad students because they are usually cheap and sometimes free.
A few of the posters are making me feel like damaged goods by saying why would a guy even bother with me. I feel really bad now
They are just speaking from their own experiences which is the best that most people can do. There is not one thing that works for all women (Men too). Some generalities,yes, specifics no.
From my experiences many women in their late teen to 20's have similar experiences to yours; Some just rubbing or pressure, some feel pleasure some not. 30's and 40's not so much. Like Djuna brought up earlier, it's in your brain and thought process. Some people can have an orgasm in their sleep or with out even being touched, so your "just a feeling pressure" can obviously be overcome. Use your noodle
I'm a woman. I dont feel anything during sex, and I was wondering at what point should I tell a guy this..
This again? Did the hundreds of posts on your last thread teach you nothing about your own anatomy?
A lot of women don't orgasm from penetration! That is not an intimacy issue!
But I'll tell you what, I think you need to hear it from a certified professional. So go ahead and make that appointment. Some people need to pay a copayment to really listen.
I thought we beat this horse to death in another thread. Don't the ToS indicate that multiple threads are not supposed to be started for essentially the same topic? I thought the conclusion that she does not really want to solve this problem was pretty undisputable in the last thread.
Her issue would be desirable compared to the snide, crass attitudes of some of the CD women on here.
Oh, come on. This is the bazillionth thread she has posted about this. She is choosing to ignore what many, many people have told her. We've given her links to help her understand, we've pointed her to countless resources. She has it in her head that she's defective when by all indications, she is not. The only thing that is defective here is her ability to open her mind and understand what so many people have painstakingly taken the time to tell her again and again and again. There is nothing wrong with her body. It's all in her head that she somehow MUST feel this soul-shattering bliss from penetration alone. Most women do not feel that, and it is perfectly NORMAL.
Get medical help for your problem, is by far the best advice anyone can give you, OP. It may be easily fixable via few therapy sessions with a specialist experienced in this area. It isnt so much about what the guy youre dating would think about this issue, but substantialy more about how you feel about it.
This does not sounds like an intimacy issue to me. Try Googling this problem and you will find that you are not alone. Many women cannot orgasm through penetration alone. You just have to learn to incoporate clitoral stimulation during sex. That's all.
Its not even really something you need to discuss with a partner. Just find out what works for you and show that partner what you like. Google it. You will find resources. Good luck!
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