Can men and women be friends

[LostMyself73]

Originally Posted by migol84

I think if you really want to stay friends with him then you should make friends with his wife too. And you should also encourage this Mike to make friends with your husband. Wait... I don't know... its starting to sound like one those "swingers" thingy situations. Okay, never mind what I said.

LoL swinger wouldn't ever happen I'm a one man gal but thanks for the advise. I have tried becoming her friend and move past her judgements

[Lilac110]

Originally Posted by LostMyself73

Im a good person and I would never want to hurt his wife I actually enjoy her company and would like to become her friend also it's not my fault he cheated and she chose to stay with him so why should I have to lose a friend

You shouldn't have to. However, he needs to make fixing his marriage his top priority, and that may mean less time with you, not because you're female, but because he needs to spend time with her. It's a pretty good wager that unless and until things are completely right between his wife and him, she's going to take her issues out on every female friend or coworker he has whom she meets. Not that I think she's right or justified for doing so. In fact, I think it was juvenile of her to criticize you and make you feel uncomfortable. What, did she think you were going to sneak off to the bathroom for a quickie with him while she sat there with your husband? Maybe play footsie under the table?

Honestly, this is why I think cheating is the final nail in the coffin of a marriage long dead, and it's best just to get rid of the cheater. But some people would rather spend the rest of their lives punishing the jerk and making themselves and everyone around them miserable.