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Location: Went around the corner & now I'm lost!!!!
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Originally Posted by malamute
Is this how you want to live? The financial problems will worsen, and did his two domestic assault charges involve you and if so why are you still with him? If you don't want to lose your home and your pets then can't you kick him out?
You have to decide what it is you want out of your life, things aren't going to get better and those domestic assaults will continue. It sounds like he is being stalkerish by going to your workplace and making sure your co-workers can see him getting plastered. Sounds like some kind of control thing.
I think she may have been in this so long and she may not know how (mentally) to get out and/or don't have the financial means to do so. But if I were her as soon as I found out he was an alcoholic, I would have been stashing away some money every chance I got until the opportunity to leave; not just leave but leave the state. She still can do this and it would be a total surprise to him. Let him drink himself to oblivion and one day disappear...poof...gone.
How in the world is a guy who is a full blown alkie accumulate enough wealth to be able to retire at 47.......
I could guess that he may have been in a branch of service for 20+ years and is retired on his pension.... But, that won't go very far with drinking. I do know guys that have military pensions, and it sure does help them out, but when you add in how many dollars a day to stay drunk, it comes up a bit short, I believe.
Doesn't sound to me as though it's going to get any better. Staying with him, it's going to be a hard row to hoe.
That is considered for physical control of the vehicle among other things. It may not get a conviction in court but they can still arrest you for DUI. There is also public drunkness, open container, disorderly conduct, tresspass. Take your pick.
Yep, sitting in a car drunk will get a person arrested. That happened to an ex of mine when I was young. He went out drinking, didn't want to drive so he stayed in the car with the keys on the seat. Cops came by and he was arrested (maced during the process as well). The OP should definitely be calling the cops on him when ever she sees this situation. Enough arrests will land him in jail for a period of time and that will dry him out unless he gets the dt's.
My husband has taken to drinking in the car while waiting for me ti come out of work. He gets totally smashed then wants me to drive home. Anyone see an issue with this?
You want him to be happy to see you when you come out of work right?
He is an alcoholic, doing what alcoholics do. So, what is the payoff for you? There is a reason you stay with him.
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