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If she says you're not her boyfriend, you're free to see other women. So don't put all your emotional eggs in one basket. Enjoy her company, but don't turn down a good offer if you get one elsewhere.
I don't think it's a good sign when someone treats you like a boyfriend or girlfriend, but won't make it official. I once dated a guy who was amazing to me. I knew his family, he held my hand and took me out on dates, said wonderful things to me...but he wouldn't call me his girlfriend. Some people can be cuddly, have sex with you, introduce you to friends and/or family, and still have zero intention of actually being in a long term relationship with you. You say you've known this woman awhile, and I agree that she should know you well enough to know if she wants to commit. Plus, it's pretty unfair for her to expect monogamy out of you when she won't admit you're in a relationship. If you guys are "just friends" then you're a free agent to do whatever you want when it comes to dating. I don't like it when guys push for labels after only 3 weeks, BUT you know each other already, and honestly if I was really into a guy I'd just be happy he wanted to make things official no matter how long it had been.
You can either wait it out awhile longer and see if she changes her mind, or if it's really bothering you then stop giving her all those boyfriend benefits and treat her the way she labels you - JUST as a friend. No sleepovers, no cuddling, no telling her nice things, no paying for her. If I was being labeled as only a friend then I'd treat that person ONLY as a friend.
It sounds like she's all in, but she doesn't want the label. You just have to choose whether the label is more important than what you already have together.
First, I think if it didn't work the first time it rarely works the second time. Second, she seems to be in some sort of transitional period.
I don't know, but sometimes when people say stuff like "I don't like labels, etc.", I think they are basically giving themselves an easy out if things don't work out. Basically, if tomorrow she decided to stop seeing you or she started seeing someone else, she can say well we were never in a relationship anyways. I think it makes it a little too convenient for her and if it's not something you feel comfortable with, then you should talk to her about it. If you're fine just riding the wave and seeing where it goes, then do that, but keep expectations low until she shows more commitment.
Haha it's just so annoying. Often when we go places people will say things like oh you guys look so cute together and it just makes things awkward. To the outside observer you'd think we were a couple that are totally into each other. Today is the first day I haven't seen her in like 4 days.
I'm wary though, we got into a fight today so maybe I wont have to worry about her much longer.
I think slowing things down possibly wouldn't help as she'd likely cut things off and riding the wave doesn't seem that appealing to you as you're uneasy and annoyed in this situation. Perhaps it's suited for you to reevaluate if you want this situation with her as you seem uneasy and feel like you're the only one with anything to lose...though I'm not seeing anything other than male ego/pride that you have to lose as I highly doubt you love her or plan any life-long commitment to her.
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