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Old 03-21-2013, 05:24 PM
 
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you proved my point, it's much easier for woman, men dont get offended
I've only ever approached unsuspecting men who don't even know I exist. I like to pounce like a cat and surprise him.

(and I'm just one woman. my views are not all women's views)
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Old 03-21-2013, 05:25 PM
 
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I don't have approach anxiety . . .
Women don't get approach anxiety because they don't approach, they get approached and do the gate-keeper thing: yes, no, maybe-so... until he fails or passes go.

Part of the art of approach is to break through the traditional expected patterns of this approach/reject/accept model. Instead, you just engage them in an interesting conversation topic asking for their opinion. Like, "hey, can I ask you something, what do you think of xyz".

Crack the code, break the rules, being different gets their attention.
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Old 03-21-2013, 05:27 PM
 
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I prefer to be approached by the guy or to pounce on an unsuspecting one.

But I agree that women usually don't approach.
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Old 03-21-2013, 05:27 PM
 
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Women don't get approach anxiety because they don't approach, they get approached and do the gate-keeper thing: yes, no, maybe-so... until he fails or passes go.

Part of the art of approach is to break through the traditional expected patterns of this approach/reject/accept model. Instead, you just engage them in an interesting conversation topic asking for their opinion. Like, "hey, can I ask you something, what do you think of xyz".

Crack the code, break the rules, being different gets their attention.
well said!
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Old 03-21-2013, 05:34 PM
 
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you proved my point, it's much easier for woman, men dont get offended

This is a whole other issue though. Men won't ever say no to anybody! lol
That can lead a girl on if she wants something serious with him but he just wants easy sex.
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Old 03-21-2013, 05:39 PM
 
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Men won't ever say no to anybody!.
Really... I beg to differ
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Old 03-21-2013, 05:48 PM
 
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Females get rejected in the sense that a male will overlook her or not approach her. Or he'll approach her but then change his mind and go off with another girl (very common in the early stages, not talking about being dumped).
It's not the same. Not even close.

A man starts out alone and horny and has to go around and cold approach random women exposing his own self (not a product or service) to open scrutiny and rejection.

On the other hand, most women already have some kind of man (or multiple men) in the background as lovers, friends, and all women do is wait around for a better man to come along.

Women are never in the position to be rejected simply because women do the CHOOSING.
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Old 03-21-2013, 05:52 PM
 
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Really... I beg to differ
Okay.... explain to me why SO many guys say they are open to both FB and a serious relationship?
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Old 03-21-2013, 05:54 PM
 
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It's not the same. Not even close.

A man starts out alone and horny and has to go around and cold approach random women exposing his own self (not a product or service) to open scrutiny and rejection.

On the other hand, most women already have some kind of man (or multiple men) in the background as lovers, friends, and all women do is wait around for a better man to come along.

Women are never in the position to be rejected simply because women do the CHOOSING.
I'm not here to make a case on which gender has it worse. I was just stating what happens with females.
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Old 03-21-2013, 05:56 PM
 
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When I get rejected I curl up into the fetal position and cry on the spot.
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