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Old 03-21-2013, 06:02 PM
 
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When I get rejected I curl up into the fetal position and cry on the spot.
I crybate.

Urban Dictionary: crybate
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Old 03-21-2013, 06:02 PM
 
Location: SF CA, USA
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When I get rejected I curl up into the fetal position and cry on the spot.
I usually bring a blanket and start sucking my thumb.
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Old 03-21-2013, 06:09 PM
 
Location: Xanadu
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Okay.... explain to me why SO many guys say they are open to both FB and a serious relationship?
Because most guys will settle for whatever they can get since the dating game out here is so very difficult, even though they might not truly be happy (and we wonder why the divorce rate is so high in this country.) I can only speak for myself but I don't say yes to every women I come across that has a slight attraction to me, in fact even the hottest of women I will bypass... But it is nothing they did, its because I already know what I want so I can do it. Sexual relationships, like all things in life, can get played out; even for men. But I guarantee you behind the biggest player's hunger for sex is a guy trying to find that one lady that completes him.
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Old 03-21-2013, 06:13 PM
 
Location: Xanadu
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I usually bring a blanket and start sucking my thumb.
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When I get rejected I curl up into the fetal position and cry on the spot.

Face palm both of you
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Old 03-21-2013, 06:15 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Get mad, cry, buy something for myself....then come to my senses that it wasn't ment to be.
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Old 03-21-2013, 06:17 PM
 
Location: Pueblo - Colorado's Second City
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Rejection is not what bothers me but its the lying and the leading on that does. If the guy I like does not like me tell me I am a big boy I will move on and meet guys who do like me but don't lie to me.
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Old 03-21-2013, 11:13 PM
 
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My boss rejected my request for all of next month off. It hurts to get rejected.


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Old 03-21-2013, 11:17 PM
 
Location: SF CA, USA
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It's actually a fairly cathartic activity when you think about it. Masturbation relieves sexual stress and crying relieves emotional stress. All you need to do is eat a sandwich while you do it and you can relieve hunger too.

But women are supposedly better than men at multi-tasking so I haven't reached that level of efficiency yet.
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Old 03-21-2013, 11:35 PM
 
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It's actually a fairly cathartic activity when you think about it. Masturbation relieves sexual stress and crying relieves emotional stress. All you need to do is eat a sandwich while you do it and you can relieve hunger too.

But women are supposedly better than men at multi-tasking so I haven't reached that level of efficiency yet.
It's totally and morbidly awesome.
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Old 03-21-2013, 11:50 PM
 
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I think many men struggle with rejection, because they blame themsleves for it. While its a great idea to analyze your failed approaches, the reason you get rejected doesnt really matter. It could be a thousand different things going on in the womans life at the moment, that got you rejected. Bottom line, it doesnt really matter.

When I was younger, i was a shy type of guy who lacked in confidence, wasnt very witty or charming and i would get incredibly nervous when approaching. No surprise, i got rejected every time on the few occasions i built up enough courage to actualy approach. But the worst part was that i let it absolutely crush me and my confidence, each and every time. I was always looking for a reason why i wasnt good enough or if there was a defect within me. My self confidence and my self esteem were shot, and after awhile i stopped approaching altogether.

In the next phase of my life, i finished college and got sick of being a single guy who could only get off to porn. I stopped watching porn, and started working on myself to make sure im putting my best foot forward. I didnt want to be myself, i wanted to be my best self. I started working out daily, got my nutrition in check, started reading alot instead of wasting time in front of the idiot box, put in effort to become more social and strenghtened my existing friendships and relationships. I found a clear set of values that were important to me, began to travel, found new hobbies..... In effect, my self confidence and self esteem sky rocketed, and i felt really good about where my life was heading.

While i was still a little nervous approaching women i found Attractive and still got rejected more often than not, i handled the rejections much differently. For one, i analyzed every failed approach to see if there was anything i could improve on, and two i stopped internalizing the reason for rejection itself. In fact, i congratulAted myself on having the balls to approach even if rejection would still sting a little. I got rejected less and less. I didnt let rejections bother me much, and i moved on pretty quickly with my all of a sudden high level of confidence and esteem, in tact. This allowed me to approach as much as i wanted, providing me with a way to control my level of success with women.

Today, i dont even bother thinking of rejections. I sometimes laugh about them, smile walk away. Its simply a part of every mans life, and my approaches have been perfected to the point where i can be 100% genuine and honest, and still find incredible success with approaching even the most beautiful of women in any environment. I simply wish i knew what i know now, back then.
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