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Old 03-22-2013, 12:54 AM
 
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It's not the same. Not even close.

A man starts out alone and horny and has to go around and cold approach random women exposing his own self (not a product or service) to open scrutiny and rejection.

On the other hand, most women already have some kind of man (or multiple men) in the background as lovers, friends, and all women do is wait around for a better man to come along.

Women are never in the position to be rejected simply because women do the CHOOSING.
Don't a person do the choosing when they approach, instead of sitting back, taking whatever comes along and only hoping to get the person they want?

No gender is to blame. It takes two to tango.
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Old 03-22-2013, 01:20 AM
 
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How do women handle being rejection artists?
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Old 03-22-2013, 01:54 AM
 
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Never take it personal. Even if they don't like you, it's probably because of something they've experienced in their own life that isn't compatible with you (ex: you're not tall enough because their dad was tall and they want someone tall, you remind them of their ex, your nose looks like their second grade teacher, etc.)
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Old 03-22-2013, 02:57 AM
 
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A man starts out alone and horny and has to go around and cold approach random women exposing his own self (not a product or service) to open scrutiny and rejection.

On the other hand, most women already have some kind of man (or multiple men) in the background as lovers, friends, and all women do is wait around for a better man to come along.

Women are never in the position to be rejected simply because women do the CHOOSING.
The bolded is all in some men's minds. The smart men know this isn't true; they don't set themselves up with a defeatist attitude.

Women do the choosing some of the time, too. Some get rejected, some don't. But most women take the rejections in stride better, it seems. Everyone's getting scrutinized and evaluated in this game--that part of it doesn't pertain to one party or another. Everyone's sifting and weeding, looking for a good match.
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Old 03-22-2013, 05:14 AM
 
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Never take it personal. Even if they don't like you, it's probably because of something they've experienced in their own life that isn't compatible with you (ex: you're not tall enough because their dad was tall and they want someone tall, you remind them of their ex, your nose looks like their second grade teacher, etc.)
Stupidest reasons for rejecting somebody.

I wonder what stupid reasoning is used for ACCEPTING someone.
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Old 03-22-2013, 05:21 AM
 
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I wonder what stupid reasoning is used for ACCEPTING someone.
I know several guys who said to themselves, "This is the best I can do." And they were miserable, and sooner or later divorced.
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Old 03-22-2013, 05:25 AM
 
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Men are more bitter and take rejection harder because they get rejected more. It really is that simple
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Old 03-22-2013, 06:53 AM
 
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Because most guys will settle for whatever they can get since the dating game out here is so very difficult, even though they might not truly be happy (and we wonder why the divorce rate is so high in this country.) I can only speak for myself but I don't say yes to every women I come across that has a slight attraction to me, in fact even the hottest of women I will bypass... But it is nothing they did, its because I already know what I want so I can do it. Sexual relationships, like all things in life, can get played out; even for men. But I guarantee you behind the biggest player's hunger for sex is a guy trying to find that one lady that completes him.
I squandered a lot of time sleeping around instead of focusing on what I needed to do to better myself for a relationship. Now, I'm not sleeping around, but finding it terribly difficult to bridge the gap into a relationship. In my sleeping around days it was a good way to pass the time, but in the back of my mind, I was still searching for the woman who completed me.
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Old 03-22-2013, 07:47 AM
 
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Because most guys will settle for whatever they can get since the dating game out here is so very difficult, even though they might not truly be happy (and we wonder why the divorce rate is so high in this country.) I can only speak for myself but I don't say yes to every women I come across that has a slight attraction to me, in fact even the hottest of women I will bypass... But it is nothing they did, its because I already know what I want so I can do it. Sexual relationships, like all things in life, can get played out; even for men. But I guarantee you behind the biggest player's hunger for sex is a guy trying to find that one lady that completes him.
People act like I'm crazy when I say this
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Old 03-22-2013, 08:33 AM
 
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