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Old 03-22-2013, 10:11 AM
 
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How does everyone here handle rejection? Better than I do I hope! Let it go lastwomanstansing, let it go
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Old 03-22-2013, 10:25 AM
 
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People act like I'm crazy when I say this
You are not crazy.

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I squandered a lot of time sleeping around instead of focusing on what I needed to do to better myself for a relationship. Now, I'm not sleeping around, but finding it terribly difficult to bridge the gap into a relationship. In my sleeping around days it was a good way to pass the time, but in the back of my mind, I was still searching for the woman who completed me.
That's nice to know. I think most men who sleep around feel this way but have been socially conditioned to think the opposite.

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Men are more bitter and take rejection harder because they get rejected more. It really is that simple
I think both genders take it hard. I wonder if there exists men who have never ever been rejected. I have heard some women say that they've never been rejected, but I don't know if I believe that's true. My guess is that they are having selective memories. As I said in my first post in this thred, women are rejected in different ways than men.

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I know several guys who said to themselves, "This is the best I can do." And they were miserable, and sooner or later divorced.
Me too, and women. Then there are the ones who just can't be alone.

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This is the funniest and saddest thing I have read on CD.
Hahaha I know.
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Old 03-22-2013, 10:27 AM
 
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I know several guys who said to themselves, "This is the best I can do." And they were miserable, and sooner or later divorced.
Fair point id rather be alone thne be with soembody im not attracted to but when a man struggles with women hes told to lower his standards and say yes to women who are interested im him but at the same time hes told its not fair to be with a women you're not attracted to because its all you can get..so what if all you can get is women you arent attracted to?


Seems as if struggling guys cant win either way
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Old 03-22-2013, 10:40 AM
 
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Fair point id rather be alone thne be with soembody im not attracted to but when a man struggles with women hes told to lower his standards and say yes to women who are interested im him but at the same time hes told its not fair to be with a women you're not attracted to because its all you can get..so what if all you can get is women you arent attracted to?


Seems as if struggling guys cant win either way
You struggle in different ways. I know a guy who is flush with women, but has had a hard time getting his real estate business off the ground. The women see his vision, but he can't pursue a relationship because he has nothing to bring to the table in the form of financial stability.

Then you have people who are financially secure, but aren't having success dating. It's a struggle to get it right, but as I keep saying, there's a large group of people that are passed over when someone is on the journey to find perfection.

We have likely all been rejected for not being good enough, but when you search for perfection, and you finally snag it, it's likely a toad. I'm guilty of this as well in my past.
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Old 03-22-2013, 12:20 PM
 
Location: The Valley of the Sun
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being rejected over and over is a very painful experience
These may be things that you already know but......Learn to read women so that your odds of them saying yes are higher!!!! If there's a women across the room and you look her in the eye and she glares, dont ask her out. If you're talking to a woman and she's smiling and maybe even touches your arm or flips her hair then yes, by all means ask her out. Paying attention to a woman's body language will increase your odds of success ten fold!!!
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Old 03-22-2013, 12:21 PM
 
Location: SF CA, USA
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These may be things that you already know but......Learn to read women so that your odds of them saying yes are higher!!!! If there's a women across the room and you look her in the eye and she glares, dont ask her out. If you're talking to a woman and she's smiling and maybe even touches your arm or flips her hair then yes, by all means ask her out. Paying attention to a woman's body language will increase your odds of success ten fold!!!
You're talking to a woman, dearie.
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Old 03-22-2013, 12:59 PM
 
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I think both genders take it hard. I wonder if there exists men who have never ever been rejected. I have heard some women say that they've never been rejected, but I don't know if I believe that's true. My guess is that they are having selective memories. As I said in my first post in this thred, women are rejected in different ways than men.
Both men and women take rejection hard. But one gender gets rejected much much more over the course of life then the other. Constant rejection makes you more likely to be bitter, especially when there's little to no success mixed in. Which is what I've observed from some bitter men
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Old 03-22-2013, 01:21 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Fair point id rather be alone thne be with soembody im not attracted to but when a man struggles with women hes told to lower his standards and say yes to women who are interested im him but at the same time hes told its not fair to be with a women you're not attracted to because its all you can get..so what if all you can get is women you arent attracted to?
Actually, my comment wasn't about physical attractiveness. The women these guys were with were highly attractive, but their personalities stank. These guys thought that because the women shared their fairly exotic interests and were good-looking, they'd never find anyone else who shared their interests. So they put up with terrible personalities until they couldn't stand it anymore.
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Old 03-22-2013, 02:40 PM
 
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I think you may have perhaps forgotten taxes, in the mix of guaranteed things in life, above...
There are ways around it I'm sure
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Old 03-22-2013, 02:43 PM
 
Location: SF CA, USA
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There are ways around it I'm sure
Only if you're in the class that is hurt by taxes least. The classes that feel taxes the most have no loopholes to exploit.


Because logic.
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