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Old 03-22-2013, 02:03 PM
 
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Okay, I run across "men are more (insert negative) with rejection because they get rejected more." a couple of times.

If all you are getting is rejection, then you may want to take a look at yourselves and try to find out why it is that way. Is there anything you can do to improve that.

It might even be the area that you live in. Sometimes, just a change in location, or even part of town can make a difference. I've been in one part of town where people were just cold, lukewarm at best. I went to a different part of town and experienced a complete opposite behavior.

I admit, if I had a few rejections in a row, I would have stepped back and wondered what is wrong... But then I would devote my efforts in correcting that and then get back in the game... if it means that much to me.

Now, I'm not the best looking guy by any stretch of the imagination, (nor am I the worst) but when I look my best, and I am on top of my game, I won't be at that much of a disadvantage. However, I'm still not going to get as much play as the town stud. But, if I get my share, I'm happy.

Otherwise, face it. Everyone gets rejected. Sometimes, the only difference between the successful ladies men, and us average joes, is that the ladies men actually made life work for them.

You may not have to experience those 100-200 rejections after all.
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Old 03-22-2013, 02:31 PM
 
Location: The Valley of the Sun
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Women are typically more sensitive about rejection too. I remember a time when my sister got turned down and she ended up running in to her room and crying for 10 minutes and at age 32 no less . I doubt many men actually shed a tear when they get rejected.
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Old 03-22-2013, 02:42 PM
 
Location: Tampa (by way of Omaha)
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Just stop caring. It works wonders.
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Old 03-22-2013, 02:44 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Women are typically more sensitive about rejection too. I remember a time when my sister got turned down and she ended up running in to her room and crying for 10 minutes and at age 32 no less . I doubt many men actually shed a tear when they get rejected.
No, I don't think a$$holes care.
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Old 03-22-2013, 04:04 PM
 
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I don't try
So I don't get rejected to begin with.
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Old 03-22-2013, 08:49 PM
 
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You're talking to a woman, dearie.
Yo a WOMAN?
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Old 04-14-2013, 01:12 AM
 
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Okay, I run across "men are more (insert negative) with rejection because they get rejected more." a couple of times.

If all you are getting is rejection, then you may want to take a look at yourselves and try to find out why it is that way. Is there anything you can do to improve that.

It might even be the area that you live in. Sometimes, just a change in location, or even part of town can make a difference. I've been in one part of town where people were just cold, lukewarm at best. I went to a different part of town and experienced a complete opposite behavior.

I admit, if I had a few rejections in a row, I would have stepped back and wondered what is wrong... But then I would devote my efforts in correcting that and then get back in the game... if it means that much to me.

Now, I'm not the best looking guy by any stretch of the imagination, (nor am I the worst) but when I look my best, and I am on top of my game, I won't be at that much of a disadvantage. However, I'm still not going to get as much play as the town stud. But, if I get my share, I'm happy.

Otherwise, face it. Everyone gets rejected. Sometimes, the only difference between the successful ladies men, and us average joes, is that the ladies men actually made life work for them.

You may not have to experience those 100-200 rejections after all.
Or they can always give up.
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Old 04-14-2013, 01:38 AM
 
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
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You could also learn from it.
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Old 04-14-2013, 01:40 AM
 
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You could also learn from it.
I'd rather maintain my sanity. There's more to life than dating. Plus I don't believe in bending over backwards to please people.
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Old 04-14-2013, 03:15 AM
 
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Directed towards the OP…

As another poster stated, “Rejection is a part of life.”
Whether it is related to work or personal relationships..
They are looking for someone else that fulfills their needs and you did not meet the cut…

There are two ways to handle this…
1. Dwell on the “why’s” “Whats wrong with me” and stay there for a prolonged amount of time as other offers pass us by.
2. Okay, I did not get the job…Nothing is coincidence, when one door closes another opens if WE are open…
Meaning at the time we may not understand the rhyme or reason but later down the road? We meet someone totally awesome and we forget the question period…

Rejection? Eh, a mild ego blast but life is too short to focus on what could have been and should be focused on ‘what could be”
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