Online dating, how soon do you have sex (attracted, sexy, conversation)
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Back in my online dating days, there were a couple of women that I had sex with on the first and second meetings respectively. Both times were initiated by them. There is no guideline for the appropriate time to have sex with an "online date". It's no different than how you would approach a situation with someone you met in public. If the chemistry is strong enough, it will happen much sooner than expected. One thing which always helped me was to not be the aggressor (but not be too passive), not assume the woman's comfort level with any sexual gesture, and only make a physical/sexual advance when you know you have the green light (and believe me, you will know).
That's my experience too. Chase someone and they will run. You need to draw them in. Make them want you and they will chase you.
The most common source of problems in relationships is that the couple misinterpreted their mutual feelings of attraction as love. This normally results in the couple trying to keep up appearances after about 5 years, and wondering where the love went.
It is important to know that attraction is an emotional feeling that may fade, while love is a promise that has nothing to do with attraction. Love is a promise to do 4 things.
1. To accept everything that you know and do not know about her now.
2. To accept her as you both age - for better or worse, richer or poorer, sickness or health for as long as you both shall live. Even if she is disfigured by an accident or crippled by illness, you accept her.
3. To forgive her later. Since neither of you is perfect, you both depend on each others' forgiveness.
4. To encourage her to improve. This 4th one gives purpose to your relationship - otherwise it will get boring.
If you are both ready to make and keep these promises to each-other, then you are ready to love. When you keep them, you demonstrate your love for each-other. After you formally make your promises at your wedding, you complete or consummate these promises with sexual intercourse. Every time that you subsequently have sexual intercourse, you reinforce your promises – it is truly a wonderful and mutually satisfying experience.
If you have sexual intercourse before making your promises, then you show her that you are capable of justifying forsaking her for a younger, shapelier rival when she gets older. If you are able to restrain yourself when your attraction for her is at its highest, then you show her that you are capable of resisting the rival that will inevitably come.
Source: Attraction is a feeling. Love is a Promise. by Grenville Phillips, president of Walbrent College. (LoveIsAPromise.wordpress.com)
One girl I met online we slept together on the second date.
With Another woman, whom I ended up dating for six months, it was on the third, though we kissed on the first and began talking about being intimate on the second.
First night sex romps for me have happened more when I have met a woman in person outside of online dating.
Eh, I've heard this from strangers, friends, coworkers etc.
It's a fairly common thought process.
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Attraction is a feeling. Love is a promise.
